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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 6/25/2008 2:45 PM (GMT -6)   
its always negative when i post so i dont really want to post anything its also pathetic and really insignificant but its the only outlet i have and if i keep it inside it eats at me...
Its  whole long story to pathetic to repeat ,anyway but in brief I left a 8 year relationship never should have been because it was not who i was,happend about 7 months ago packed up moved a 1000miles to a new place staying with kind ppl sleeping on there couch.My ex followed me here had a whole episode got police to arrest them for drunken disordely and threatening my life.Broke all contact but they have been harasing me and the ppl i stay with for the past 6 months it hasent been to a point where i can do something about it just e-mail anonymouse phone calls on the landline and mobile phones with heavy breathing 24hours a day we know who it is and it started when they arrived.
My ex had been trying to get hold of me for the past few days wanting something they threw away said i should take it its mine now they saying its thers and making an issue they can have it i just dont want contact. I went away with the ppl for one night and this morning someone phoned them to say there house has been vandalized.They leave some of the windows open for the cats to come and go but you cant get in there is burglar bars infront. All the window blinds have been ripped off and out trough the windows the motive wasent burglary and we cant prove it was my ex but we pretty sure it was so they made a case at the police and told them who they suspecting it was so they will go question them...
I feel angry at myself for putting these kind ppl in this situation I feel sad and disgusted with myself for leaving my ex and causing them to do all this stuff. I know i am no good and trouble follows me that i need to leave before it gets to intense I just dont know where i would go.........   

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 6/25/2008 3:07 PM (GMT -6)   


You have to go somewhere you have always wanted to go and not let your ex know where you are, even if you have to move around a bit until you get settled.

Your ex is obviously just as sick as when you left  and I hope you have a personal protection order against this person for safety and harrassment. this person is stalking you.  Have you talked to the police in depth about what to do?

I know this seems so unfair, but I do agree you cannot put these kind people at risk.  They have befriended you and you are right, the ex  is not going to stop unless  caught in an illegal  act.

I am so sorry and wish I knew what to suggest but I do not know what you like to do or  work you do.

You have great strength my friend and one more time you are going to have to plan carefully and leave.  Please be safe and do not tell anyone, not even the people you are staying with where you are going.

Hugs to you dear friend



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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 6/25/2008 9:26 PM (GMT -6)   

It is not your fault this person is not stable.

At some point you might need to call for more help with this person,enough is enough. You moved,you are trying to get your life together,and this person needs to just walk away.

I know what you have been going through,and I still believe that you will make it through this.
It makes me sick that this person just won't walk away and move on.

Remember, you are worth way more than that,and you have to watch out for yourself.

Ask for help,anyone that you know that can do something...

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Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.

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