You have so much going on right now and no where to turn. I've been there...the hormones the angry teen. You already know that you cant force him to go to councelling, at the moment it is just fueling the fire in his heart. I dont know why some get so angry when they hit puberty...I used to think it was just us girls who were impossible in our teens I have raised 5 sons...and I know how hard it is. even harder when one or more has issues. I think that for now, you should go see your family doctor, or call that councellor your son was seeing, and go on with it yourself. You need someone to guide you, (along with friends here) so that your missing him, doesnt spill over onto your current relationship. Of course you are grieving..he is your baby, and you feel so frustrated. Do you have a good relationship with your ex? He may be able to help in this now that your son is living there. I'm sorry that your inlaws were so negative when you were visiting. I guess they couldnt see your broken heart. They were just adding insult to injury.
Your son is still the good kid, he is just growing up, and is confused. I dont know where his anger is coming from, but hopefully with him away, and your ex watching over him..you will get some answers. Maybe you could use this situation to help your other son cope. Like..telling him that if he ever feels anger, or hateful, that he can talk to you anytime. Tell him it's so important that he keep his relationhip with you..open. You might be able to help each other through this difficult time.
It is very important that you have something to hold on to...being venting here, or get that councelling..but dont just suffer and fret over the "what happened to my child" you need stability now too, so that you can keep that family from falling apart. What about your current husband? Is he supportive?
You are a mother, and of course you feel the void when one of your children is missing. I hope I can think of something better to say later, but I just had to reply now so you know that you are not alone, and that this is fixable even though it feels hopeless. Things will get better. Let me know about your ex..and if you can count on any help from him.
Holding you close in my thoughts, from one mother to another
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