You're definitely right on not giving in to his emotional blackmail, and it's very inconsiderate not to mention immature for him to play these games with you. It sounds as if this man has some serious problems if he's making these threats and getting jealous over a relationship that doesn't exist, when he has no right to be jealous in the first place. I have had someone pull this on me before, and I told him that not only was it not fair for him to do that but I wouldn't put up with it, and saying things like that reduces any chance whatsoever to zero. I cut off contact with him and he moved on and needless to say never did harm himself (although he did join the army...)
All I can say would be not to give in; continue to stand up for yourself and let him know it won't be tolerated and eventually he will move on. It's the same as with bullies- if you don't feed into it, they get bored and move on. You should not have to make yourself miserable on the off chance that this guy might do something stupid if you don't (and I bet he won't, or he would have done it after the first time).
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