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   Posted 7/6/2008 10:19 AM (GMT -6)   
I lost my Dad on Monday morning at 10am, he had a massive anuyurism and died within the hour. It is the hardest and sadest thing I have faced in my life so far.  It was such a shock and I am devestated.  Yet I feel stronger than I have felt in about 10 years. The sadness is a very warm kind of sadness filled with happy memories wrapping me up like a comforting blanket, I have had 25 good years with him, a lot of people don't get that. I finally feel that I will be able to move forward from depression and step back out of the dark, I feel an amazing inner peace.  I am finally able to appreciate small things, like trees growing and birds singing. Life is such a fragile and wonderful gift that I don't want to waste any more time not enjoying it. I have realised the importance of friends and family and I am lucky in so so many ways and I don't always appreciate it! I send so much time worrying about trivial things that I don't stop and think about the great things I do have to be thankful for.
I just thought I would share this with you.....
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 7/6/2008 10:44 AM (GMT -6)   


Hello, this is Kitt.  I am so very sorry to hear of the death of your Father.  Yes it does bring our lives into perspective when we loose someone we loved.  It makes us stop and look at what are the really important things is life.  Please do allow yourself to grieve for you Father in your own way.  Honor and celebrate his life.  He was very lucky to have you...................gentle hugs to you.


I always took for granted,
what I thought I'd never lose.
Because I never thought it would happen,
until I heard the dreaded news.

They say you were chosen for his garden,
His preciously hand picked bouquet.
"God really needed him,
That's why he couldn't stay."

Saying goodbye is never easy,
It's the hardest thing to do.
But what hurts me even more
Is not the chance to say it to you.

So today, Jesus, as you are listening
in your home above;
Would you go and find my dad,
And give him all my love!

Bless you and all of your family,



Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression 
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Not a mental health professional of any kind
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~

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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 7/6/2008 12:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Li,

Isn't it ironic how in Kitt's poem it mentioned gardens. You said that your dad had gardens.

I know you are going through a difficult time right now, but I am happy that you have found peace. Please keep posting. And as always, I am here for you.

Luv and hugs, Karen....
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 363
   Posted 7/7/2008 3:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Kitt/Karen,
Yes my Dad did have gardens, my brother will have his work cut out trying to keep them up!!
Tho I'm not religious or anything, I like to think that my Dad is working in a new Garden in Heaven(or somewhere!)
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."

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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 7/7/2008 5:31 AM (GMT -6)   
I too am very sorry to hear about your dad. It is great that you have found the peace already. It usually takes a long time for someone to find that.

Hang in there and remember that we will all be here for you.

Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.

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