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   Posted 7/11/2008 11:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello friends,
I know I just posted a topic a few hours ago, but I'm really in a bind! 
I've been working at this store(not gonna mention the name!) for almost a year and a half now. Since my first week on the job, I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it much longer and wanted to quit. I'm 20, and my parents still pretty much control my life sadly. I plan on giving a two weeks notice at the end of the month, because I've been applyng for other jobs and my biggest hope is to get a job at school so I can go to school adn work there too. So much more relaxing and convenient. If I even mention that Im quitting my job, my mom freaks out and says stuff like "youre staying where youre at end of story." In her eyes, I need to stay at my job cause its close to home and I'm used to it so I shouldnt give that up. I dont think I can stress enough how mentally exhausting this job is. I know it sounds stupid, but for a person like me (I've had multiple anxiety attacks at work and Im also really paranoid) this job is pure misery. I try so hard to make my mother happy so that she trusts me and trusts me to do things a little more independently, but I need to do something that makes me happy. And I think if I quit this job, I would genuinely be happy to be out of there and try something new.
How do I do something as simple as change jobs without my mother getting mad at me?
It's really frusterating. I feel like I can't allow myself to be happy and experience life and go out and take risks and try new things because my mother wants me to stay where I'm at and not change.
thanks for reading. 
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   Posted 7/12/2008 6:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Bte

If it was me,I simply would not say anything until later down the road. You don't have the new job yet,and then once you get it try to make her start date as close as possible to your quit date of your current job.

You are old enough to make your own decisions about a job,and as long as you have one then your mom should be happy.

I wonder if she is worried that you might quit this job without having another one and then therefore will not have money of your own.

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   Posted 7/12/2008 12:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I tend to agree with Shy, try to find another job before you quit the one that you are at. I can see your reasoning for wanting to work at hte school. You would probably be much more comfortable there. It is not any fun being anxious where you are currently working.

Do you take anything for anxiety. If not, I would talk to the doctor about getting something, it may change your whole outlook on things.

Wishing you the best,
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   Posted 7/12/2008 2:45 PM (GMT -6)   

3 votes for the same thing.  I would get the new job and then resign from the current one and let your Mom know after it is a done deal. 

You are 20 years old and if it is about the money then it is wise to secure a new position first.

That is my 2 cents for today.

Good Luck


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