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Posted 7/18/2008 5:47 AM (GMT -6)
I was at my therapist appointment a few weeks ago and she and I were going my "Treatment assessment plan" when she asked me what my long term goal was and I said "survival". I must admit that made me very sad, that my whole life seems to have boiled down to survival. Not achieving great things, not making new friends, not traveling to exotic places but just getting through the day. I have a confession to make, whenever I hear or read about good things happening to others who have "normal lives" it seems to make my depression ten times worse and I am horribly jealous of them. Sometimes I don't watch TV just for that reason, it makes me feel like a monster. It made me wonder how many of us with this disease feel like our goal is "just getting throught the day". I would love to hear everyone's thoughts on this
Posted 7/18/2008 6:35 AM (GMT -6)
Lunar

With depression it seems like that has to be one of our major goals" taking it one day at a time". We have to get through this day,and pray that we can beat the depression and move on to the next.

I wish it was different,but at some point we have depression,it is an awful disease and it takes alot of strength to beat it.

I remember walking in the mall,and being so jealous of people that were "truly laughing" or smiling all of the time.
It took me a very long time to get that way,but I can laugh now,and I find myself doing things that I never thought I could do.

But,I have days where everything sets me off,I cry,I want to scream my panic and anxiety is up 100%.

Don't give up,stay with the treatment try to learn from it,and yes take it one day at a time.
Posted 7/18/2008 11:03 AM (GMT -6)
One day at a time is the key. sometimes I go one minute at a time. So yes, just getting through the day is a normal feeling when you have depression.

So keep trying, one day at a time. Keep up with your counseling and medications. You can do this, one day at a time....

Life isn't easy with depression, but we can get above it and lead a halfway normal life. Just don't give up on yourself.

Best wishes,
hugs, Karen
Posted 7/20/2008 2:08 AM (GMT -6)

If you have the strength for 'survival' lunardance - then you have the strength to beat depression :-)

How about setting yourself some daily goals (write them down the night before) - only little ones to start with - little steps everyday lead to a journey where your life gets better and better  :-)

Be proud of the 'little things' you acheive..they may not be startling to anyone else, but who cares, if they put a smile on your dial then it was worth doing.

Ask your counsellor to teach you new skills for coping with whatever you find difficult in everyday life..

You Can get thru this I promise :-)

Sista J. 

Posted 7/20/2008 2:10 PM (GMT -6)
lunardance, don't feel guilty about being jealous of those with normal lives. It's a normal reaction and just means we want to  BE normal too.

It's a hard battle, because I don't wish them ill, or that they not have what they have--just wish I had the same myself.

I find I also get very upset about people who are going through a tough time or a disaster and I want to help. So as long as there's that balance, I think we're ok.

I know what you mean about even watching tv or a movie where there's happy people or a happy ending. I can turn that off or tell myself it's not real or choose not to watch it. It's friends or family that I can't ignore that's difficult.

Posted 7/20/2008 4:40 PM (GMT -6)
I personally think this is a case of the 'grass is greener on the other side'. It only looks that way sometimes. Not all people are as normal as they seem. I think that everybody has problems, so to speak, we just don't realize it from a distance.

I think we all try to keep boundaries. A safe space. We only let people in so far and that is it. We feel comfort in that. Knowing that we have a place for ourselves that no one can touch. And I think that is okay.

hugs, Karen
Posted 7/21/2008 8:55 AM (GMT -6)
Lunar dance I sometimes feel the exact same way, ok just make thru today, and then another, i havea few happy moments, but i am still trying i ave medication helping quite abit. yes it is survval

I have gotten a little bette r sincemeds were changed, i can cope on juyst getting thru the day, or just going thru themotions, if want t email just click on my icon where its got email.Keep on posting....

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