trying to stay ubbeat but keep sinking

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   Posted 7/19/2008 10:55 AM (GMT -6)   
I am trying to stay in the now and not beat myself up over past mistakes and worry how they will impact our future.  I just can't get the thoughts out of my head I am trying and I suceed for a little and then I sink down again.  I have a husband who loves me but he can't relate because he has never been depressed and doesn't worry about the future.  I am so anxious ( I don't knowif that is the right way to express what I feel)  I feel I am aobut to jump out of my skin and throw up.  I think I need to see someone.  I wonder if it due to menopause or premeupause.  I am 45 .  I just want to be happy.   i have never been ablr to relax .  I am always been a worrier.  It just has never been like this.  before I was married and had kids I did make some mistakes but I always pulled myself up and restrted my life.  Now things are at the moment fine but I can't enjoy it.  I am so worry about the future and finances.  I hate these feeling .  I should be enjoying myself and the life we have built but I can't .  I am making myself go crazy ..I try to hide it and do ok around my kids though I know I am short withthem sometimes.  I really don't know if meds would help or not   I just want to be happy and clam instead of my heart racing and wanting to cry

getting by
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   Posted 7/19/2008 12:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

I really think that medications and counseling would help you a lot. I am like you. A worrier. But with the help of a medicaiton called abilify, I am free of that. I have learned to take life one day at a time and put the worry behind me. I had obsessive thinking. I would dwell on past mistakes and on worries of the future. Not any more. You have to try to live in the now. ONe moment at a time if need be. I wish you the best with this. If I can answer any more questions, I will post. But I think that you know what you need to do to be happy. Medications and or counseling. It can be done, believe me, it helped me like you wouldn't believe.

Best wishes,
hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 7/19/2008 2:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello there.
Like getting by said, try and explore options of medications and/or counseling. Counseling has been wonderful for myself. I would really recommend it to you.
I feel like you do alot, though my problem is that I'm alone. Im not married, I dont have kids, and that makes me feel bad. Kind of the opposite.
I dont really know what else to say other than try finding a good comfortable counselor. It may sounds scary, and most adults I've talked to are hesitant about the idea because they feel they are too old to be going to counseling. But you never know the help you can give yourself until you go out and explore a little.
Maybe you don't need medications at this point, I would say try the therpay thing and see where it takes you from there. I cant stress enough (from personal experience) how wonerful counseling is!

Try listening to some mellow music to relax yourself and don't be so hard on yourself. People love you and you sound like a wonderful caring person. Don't be afraid to ask for help if need be.

take care
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   Posted 7/19/2008 2:44 PM (GMT -6)   

I agree with Karen.  Try looking at things from a different stand point....Is there something you can change in your life now that will relieve the feelings your having?  If there isnt anything you can change physicially or even really pinpoint what the cause for these feelings is then counseling may be a good choice for you.  Talking out your feelings, thoughts, things that we normally dont share or we think we just deal with small issues, which could eventually become big issues if not discussed. 

If you have no idea what the real issue is as to why your feeling this way then it is appropiate for counseling and medication to help you feel more calm and less anxious.  Sometimes people can just develop an anxiety/panic disorder and also depression from a small trigger that they may not even recognize.  These people are a bit more difficult to treat with just counseling as finding the root cause is hard for them.

Please keep us updated, take care

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