I know how much you want to help your mom. I think it is awful nice of you to go to the extra measure to make things pleasant for her. And I can see how it would be frustrating watching her being down all of the time. Maybe you could push her to start getting out a little every now and then. Take her out to lunch one day or something like that. Do you think that she would go for that?
I know how much you want to help her and it has to so frustrating to realize that all she needs is a little help and she doesn't want it. Does she realize that she is depressed?
There is only so much that you can do in a situation like this. Though I know that you want to help her so badly. If you could get her to do little things for herself she might feel better. Sometimes we are so use to feeling bad that we don't realize we do until we have something to compare it to. So trry to get her to do little nice things for herself. That would give her a feeling of accomplishment too.
I truly understand how hard this is for you. It isn't easy to watch the ones we love deal with depression. But remember you have to take care of you first. If you don't, you will start to get stressed and that just causes our depression to get worse. So please look after yourself first and foremost.
I hope that this helped some.
best wishes to you,
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies