Depression/Stress and Work

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   Posted 7/31/2008 2:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Ahoy hoy.
Long story, but I'll try to keep it brief.
I have a job that is really bad (well, I hate it) and I feel ill whenever I think about work. My doctor thinks I need a few weeks off as Im stressed and have a history of depression. On the other hand my wife doesnt want me to take time off as we are living rather close to the bread line and I only get SSP.
Im trying to make my wife understand just what this job is doing to me, but I dont have the right words. Any help or advice would be appreciated in how best to do this.
Thanks for your time all. smurf

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   Posted 7/31/2008 2:40 AM (GMT -6)   
If your wife has never suffered from depression she probably has no idea of how you're feeling.

Have you been on your job long enough to take paid vacation? Have you thought about looking for a different job?

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   Posted 7/31/2008 3:26 AM (GMT -6)   
She actually has suffered from depression, which is why I dont know why she doesnt understand.

As far as the job goes; yeah I'm looking for a new one. But its hard in this area right now. And I'm nearly out of holidays due to booking some for the years end already.

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   Posted 7/31/2008 6:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David
Welcome to the forum,we are very glad that you found us.

If your doctor has advised you to take some time off then you probably should. Is there anyway that you can move your holiday's around from the year end?
Maybe if you also planned some time off with your wife,like taking a day to go for a hike somewhere,or fishing... or having a day that you watch old movies and eat lots of junk food.
Telling her that you want her to be part of your therapy might help...

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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.

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Date Joined Jul 2008
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   Posted 7/31/2008 6:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Nah, the holidays are booked with a group of us. Only a month and a half away mind.

I think my biggest issue is trying to make her understand how I feel right now. I love her (obviously I guess), but we struggle to communicate sometimes.
edit: thanks for the support though everyone. :)

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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 7/31/2008 7:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David,

Why don't you try some sort of couples counselling or something along those lines? That way she would get a better understanding of you in general.

Just a thought!
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"

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   Posted 7/31/2008 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
I considered that, but truth be told besides the communication being a struggle (we are both fairly quiet about our feelings in general) the marriage is very good.

I think I may have to just bite the bullet and take the sick pay.
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