My heart is breaking, please respond if you can

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   Posted 8/4/2008 9:39 PM (GMT -6)   
I have to have my 16 1/2 yr old poodle put to sleep tomorrow and my heart is just breaking.  I can't bear the thought of losing him but he really took a turn for the worse this weekend and I know it is not fair to let him suffer.  He seemed to be doing OK for a while, eating, and happy to see us but now he is not eating much, he drinks huge amounts of water and his back legs are so weak he can hardly stand.  He just sleeps under my bed and when awake just stares off.  I have to carry him downstairs and down the porch stairs to get him out.  He is also incontinent and I have been living with towels and incontinence pads all over my upstairs.  I just feel so bad.  I know this is the humane thing to do but it is so hard to understand that I am causing my dog's death. Right now I am numb but tomorrow I know the tears will be non stop.  I know others of you have been in this position.  I know I will get thru it but it is so hard! I just can't see putting him thru a few more months of suffering just to have him around.  A number of years ago I had another poodle and I waited way too long to put her down and I know how much she suffered.  I just have to come to terms with this.  I would so appreciate any thoughts from my friends here.  I need to know I will be OK.  My younger son is going to stay with me this week as the older one who lives with me is on a 2 week vacation. Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 8/4/2008 9:56 PM (GMT -6)   


I was in your position in November..............broke my heart.  I understand.

Gentle Hugs


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... 

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   Posted 8/4/2008 10:20 PM (GMT -6)   

Kitt, thanks so much for your kindness and support.  Your poem was beautiful and I will read and read it.  I know my sweet Rusty is joining the other dogs in my family and he will be happy in his dogy heaven and out of pain. I so appreciate your wonderful words.


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   Posted 8/5/2008 7:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Aurora....I so understand what you are going through.I had 2 king charles spaniels..Freeway and Vincent and they were my bestest friends...they got sick together and I had to have them put to sleep only a week apart.They had heart and kidney problems and needed so many tablets to keep them going.One day freeway the eldest dog looked at me and I saw in his eyes that he was tired and struggling to breathe of go to the loo.The next day vincent gave me the same look and I just knew it was time for them to go.I just knew I COULDNT LET THEM SUFFER FOR ME!!!They were 15 and 13 years old which was really old for that breed and had a fab life...caravanning with us all over the uk and Ireland and always had the best care.Losing them was so hard but I was told by our fab vet to think of the fun we had together and to always remember that we as owners must do what is right for our pets and not let them suffer just because we feel so much pain.I think of my boys everytime I look at there photos on the wall and smile...and remember the fun we had together.You will grieve for some time but it will get easier...I promise.Just remember there are lots of doggies out ther who need your love and care so get another one as sono as you are ready...they will help ease the pain. AND FILL THE BIG GAP IN YOUR LIFE.With my best wishes and thinking of you love..Groovey

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   Posted 8/5/2008 12:03 PM (GMT -6)   

I feel your pain. As I have had many dogs in my life. And when it is time for them to go, it is the hardest thing to do. The last dog that I had to put down had suffered a stroke and it was easier, because I knew she couldn't see anymore and she couldn't walk. But it was still hard. You are the one who is determining the end of life, but, it is the humane thing to do. I know that it is so difficult at this time but as Groovey said, maybe you could rescue another pet and it would be so gratifying to help another animal. Sometimes we want to wait awhile, but I always found it would take my mind off of the one I lost. So think about it.

I hope that you aren't suffering too much with the loss, just remember that you did the right thing. And we are here for you during this difficult time.

Luv and hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 8/5/2008 2:28 PM (GMT -6)   

Thank you all for your kind replies.  There has been a strange turn of events.  When I got up this morning my dog was all perky and walking well, went outside, wagged his tail and had his breakfast.  He is seeming like his old self.  I realize this is not going to last but I talked it over with my son who also observed the dog and we have decided for now not to do anything.  I think the next time we see something bad happening we will have to put him down.  For now though I think we have to give him a fair chance and let him enjoy the last few weeks or months.  He is acting happy and wanting to be petted and be with us.  I am still waiting for the vet to call and I will see what he says but I know he will say it is up to me and at the moment it doesn't feel right to do anything.  Thank you all again for being so helpful and sympathetic.


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