Hi, I'm new also, just signed up to forum. My husband is going through terrible depression as well. He has been dealing with family drama and is trying to "fix" all of these very sick people (drug addict adult daughter, and brother, and handicapped sister). It is absolutely horrible watching him go through all of this pain. He is drinking and smoking (legally) to numb himself from his pain, which I can barely tolerate.
Here I am left with extreme lonliness. I hate this feeling. He is a good man, but is seriously killing himself trying to help others. I am not sure how long I can live with this black hole of depression. I have a hard enough time staying in a non-depressed state myself and this is just crazy-making.
So, what has helped me? I've been attending meetings on codependency, which have really helped me, and going to therapy. Also, going to yoga and excersizing a lot. Just taking the best care of myself that I know how to do, since I cannot help him at all. I'm learning to detach with love.
He keeps telling me to hang in there because this will get better soon..... I hope I am not crazy for staying. I do love him and hope he gets through this... and I hope our marriage makes it though this!
I am sorry that I had to remove one word out of your post. I guess even though it is legal, we aren't suppose to mention it. But I am sure that the other members understand what you are talking about.
Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 8/7/2009 11:35:36 AM (GMT-6)