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Date Joined Aug 2008
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   Posted 8/7/2008 9:12 AM (GMT -6)   
  Hello everyone.  My name is Ashley, I am a soon to be new mom.  I am 23 years old and have 10 weeks to go.  I suffer from Bipolar mixed mania and depression.  I have a really hard time with it all now that all my hormones are going crazy.  Thank god that my fiance is mostly supportive.  I also had a drug problem before I was pregnant and the first of my pregnancy.  I regret everything I did at the beginning.  I went into rehab when I was 3 months pregnant, and thats where I was diagnosed with bipolar and I always knew about the depression.  It runs in my family.  Well maybe someone can give me some insight or advice.  Thanks

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   Posted 8/7/2008 9:35 AM (GMT -6)   


You've found a safe, caring , and reliable support community for people battling Depression.  We have many members here who will be glad to lend an ear, offer information, and provide support for people who need it.

We also have a bipolar forum you may want to post to also.

I am so proud of you for going to rehab and taking care of yourself and your baby.  Please be proud of you too..............know you are doing the right things.

You have come a long way and now is not a time to give up.

We are here so know you now have a huge family of people to talk to, write down your thoughts and fears and ask for advice or give advice.

Instead of focusing on doom, stay in the moment. Give yourself breathing space. Consider what matters to you. Establish a few manageable goals, then take small steps toward achieving them. We are right here beside you.

Gentle Hugs to you




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   Posted 8/7/2008 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there Ashley,

You are taking all of the right steps and are on your way to wellness. I know that it is hard not being able to take any meds when you are pregnant. But you will be glad after the baby is born. Do you know whether you are having a boy or girl? Some people like to know and some want to wait. What ever it is , I know he/she will have a good mother. You sound very kind and compassionate.

Coming here is a good thing too, you will find much support and guidance. We are happy that you are joining us. If you would like you can post on the thread for newbies. (that is what we call you when you are new). It is a way for us to get to know eachother, but that is totally up to you.

Only 10 weeks to go eh? That is so cool. I am so happy for you and happy that you are getting help now. You will be so glad that you did. LIke I say you are on the road to recovery. Not saying it will always be easy, but I am sure that you will have many more good days than not.

Keep us posted as to how you are doing. Join in on other threads if you would like and feel free to start new threads as you did with this one. There are so many supportive members here, I feel you will be comfortable for they have been through the same as you and will be here to guide you.  Try to take life one day at a time, that is the best way to go.  No thinking about the past, and no worrying about the future.

I hope that you have a wonderful day,

Best wishes to you and your upcoming little one.

Hugs, Karen

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Post Edited (getting by) : 8/7/2008 8:42:47 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/7/2008 10:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Karen for the boast of confidence, and yes I do know what we're having.  It's a girl.  I have four names picked out but won't name her til she's born.  I will know then what her name is.  I am having a hard day today.  Do you ever think to NOT leave someone that you love(going to work or to the store..etc)mad cause you don't know when she/he will be there and breathing two hours later? ten minutes later? See here's the story my fiance and I are trying to quit smoking cigarettes, and last night I wanted to go to the store, to get some, and he cussed me out, and told me, "don't cowar down now!" I was like oh my goodness he just talked to me that way!  I told him NOT to cuss me, that was not necessary.  I just got up and went outside to watch the sunset and get away.  I was out there for about an hour.  See this all kind of stems from us buying a new car.  We had this 96 Jeep that ran okay but it smelled like dogs(from ours), had dog hair everywhere in there. So we had to have a new car before the baby comes. So I convinced him one day this past monday to go look at some used cars.  We went to look and we found this Malibu they only wanted $7,000 for(my fiance had great credit so he can buy anything). Then he see this other car that about 2,000 more and its fully loaded and he test drives it, buys it, and that night he woke up at five in the morning couldn't sleep cause he was stressed from this car payment, hes like oh god how are we gonna pay for all this, and how we'd only have like $700 dollars to live on a month.  It made me feel all guilty cause I was the one that got him to go look at the cars in the first place.  So then he's like well now I know how we are going to pay for this car is that we are going to quit smoking cause we spend about $200 on cigarettes a month, he smoked more than I do so most of that was from him.    So this morning he says well you're the one that wanted the car! After telling me that it wasn't my fault that he was stressing out and couldn't sleep.  So I hope I didn't confuse you all by my here and there story, but thats just how it all came together in my head.  Can anyone relate??

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   Posted 8/7/2008 10:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh yes,

But he is the one who went for the more expensive car. So don't feel guilty. This is something that comes with a relationship. And having a baby on the way. It is normal to stress over things like car payments. But you will make it. It just takes time to get use to the change. So don't let this get you down. You will be fine.

I am happy that you are having a girl. That is sooo coool. I wish you all the best.

Please don't let him get to you, he is just a little stressed. You don't need that, just keep thinking good thoughts and everything will work out. Like I said, he opted for the more expensive car. Not you. And you need a car with a baby. I have dogs too and they shed all over the place. I have a german shepard and a pittbull/australian cattledog mix. I love them both, but they both shed terribly.

I hope that you feel better. No worries, just relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

Luv and hugs, Karen...
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Date Joined Jun 2008
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   Posted 8/7/2008 2:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Ashley,
Boy can I relate to you! I got pregnant when I was sixteen, married at 17 and had our son at 17. Yeah, really stupid. But things are working out for us. We are financially stressed but we know we can make it so we try not to worry about that. My husband tries to make me feel guilty whenever my car messes up because I didn't want to get another one and have another payment to make. But it is not your fault that he bought the more expensive one. So dont worry about it. You have alot on your plate now anyway. I know how hard it is to not be able to take meds while your pregnant. Just keep in mind that you only have ten more weeks to go and then you'll be able to start some meds. (if your not breastfeeding.) Congratulations on the baby girl. I am so excited for you. Kids are awsome. They are hard but they are soooo worth it. My son is 2 now and he is so funny. He lifts me up when I feel so down. He can make me smile when nobody else in this world can. Baby's are such blessings. It's nice meeting you. I'm always glad to have a new member of our family here. Keep posting and stay happy. Love to you!!!
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   Posted 8/7/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ashley,

Firstly I think congratulations are in order on your pending bundle of joy. You sound like a really well grounded person and I from what I have read, you give me the impression that you will make a great mum.

Regarding the Bi-Polar, I have some experience as my sister is Bi-Polar and is a similar age to you (Just a little younger). I think staying in the moment is a great piece of advice. Trying to plan too far ahead can be very confusing for people with Bi-Polar since many of the meds can affect peoples memory. Keeping hold of the past is never a good thing... whether your Bi-Polar, Depressed, Epileptic or "normal" (I hate that phrase BTW), the past is exactly what it says on the tin. Have you visited our Bi-Polar forum as well? They offer fantastic support to people with Bi-Polar as well as supporting people who are supporting Bi-Polar partners/family.

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