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Date Joined Aug 2008
Total Posts : 1
   Posted 8/12/2008 8:35 PM (GMT -6)   
 I am not a normally depressed person but my family has been so much that I am overwhelmed by anxiety and depression off and on .I started last year with my son being in involved with drug use,got him back on his feet and he is into it again.January I had a stroke.My daughter had requested to see a counselor because she was cutting herself.Ever since she has been getting worse ,psychiatrists hard to come by,real tough to help her because she is 18 and is ashamed.My exhusband abandoned my youngest son for a job out of town,and I am concerned because he doesnt think its important to talk about ,a hallmark for concern.I recently had been diagnosed with fibroid in 4 inches diameter and have been time coping with pain.I realize that all these will pass in time for me personally.But my concern that I am so overwhelmed that one of my kids will fall through the cracks because I am juggling too much.I have recently been have feelings of impending doom or the final shoe dropping.Need to talk to someone.I understand there are help lines in my area ,but they are really unindated with more serious threats of  others that are critical that they really are not interested because of calls of a more serious nature.If I get support once in awhile then I can try not let anyone be unnoticed before a serious problem occurs.But because I am so overwhelmed I cant get a grip and realize that health issues arent as serious what they are going through.I need to be centered to help them.

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Date Joined Jul 2006
Total Posts : 1257
   Posted 8/12/2008 9:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Dwarf, Is there a family service center where you live where you can get help? I think your children need some professional help. As far as you are concerned have you seen your dr, about the fibroid? That seems like quite a large one and it must be painful. Have you been told to have it removed? You are not as much help to your children if you are not well. I think you need to do what you can to get your children help, but I also think it is very important that you get the help you need. You should try to take care of your medical problems - you will probably have less anxiety if you are better. I don't know phone #s you can call but the moderators on this forum have many resources to help. Maybe you can email one of the moderators and get those numbers. Please keep posting. These are only suggestions but please know that everyone here is very understandiing and kind, and always willing to listen to you. Please take good care of yourself.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 8/13/2008 6:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Dwarf,
Welcome to the forum,we are very glad that you found us and I am sure you will find the support that you are looking for.

Raising kids is so hard, and I am sorry that you are having to go through this.
I am not sure what state you live in,but there has to be some type of resource to help you with your children.
For your daughter and her self injury here is a great place to start...

For your son,I would suggest talking to your family doctor on getting him into some type of therapy... your doctor may suggest that he goes into some type of hospital to get the treatment he needs. If he is under 18 then I would really consider admitting him. He might be mad at the time,but he will get over it.

Please take care of yourself,and keep us posted on what is going on.

Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.

Regular Member

Date Joined Jun 2008
Total Posts : 416
   Posted 8/13/2008 8:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey there,
You have come to the right place to get support and love. We are family here and we will all be here for you. I can only imagine what you are feeling now. I used to cut myself when I was younger, and I know it is a very difficult thing to stop and to help. Just know that only your daughter has control over her cutting. Nothing you can do or say can help her if she doesn't want to be helped. And you can reasure her that she is not alone in this and should not be ashamed. Many people do this or have done it. Maybe if you want you can show her this site. I'd be happy to share my story with you and her. You can email me anytime.
And about your son on drugs. The same goes for him. If he doesn't want to get better then you cant help him. You can be there for him and love him but you cant make him stop. My cousin is on drugs really bad and it is so heartbreaking to see him. He acts out very violently when he is using and really scares my family. He has been in and out of rehab for years. Has your son ever been to a counselor? This may really help him to find out why he is doing drugs in the first place. Maybe he can reslove the problem he is running from and stop the drugs.
Also, your other son. Is he still young? And you sound like a wonderful, loving, caring mother. Even if his father has abandoned him he still has you. And a mothers love is like no other. He may need to see a counselor also.
And you need to take a little time to relax. You seem to be spending all of your time trying to be everyones hero. I understand your very concerned about your children, I'm a mother too. But you do need time for yourself too. I hope that you get to feeling better. Keep posting. You are part of a very loving and supportive family now. Love to you!!!
 " When you feel like you're alone in your sadness, and no one in this whole world cares, and you want to get away from the madness, you just call my name and I'll be there..."   Third Day

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