depression and anxiety, feeling totally lost and abandon

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Date Joined Jul 2008
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   Posted 8/17/2008 8:37 PM (GMT -6)   
My husband and I are going through a hard time.  Right now I can't stand the sight of him.  He has picked his friends over his family.  We are going for counseling in 3 days.  I don't want to feel this way.  I guess I am just frustrated.  He barely touches me.  We have been married many years and he is hurting me and our kids.  Please pray for healing in our marriage and that God will soften my heart.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 8/17/2008 9:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there
First of all welcome to the forum.

I am very sorry that you are going through this, I understand what you are going through that is for sure.

Here is a question for you, are you better off with or without him? That is a hard question to answer because you will have to really sit back and think about the good,and the bad that goes with your marriage.

Take a deep breath and give the counseling a chance. My opinion is that if he is willing to go to counseling with you,then that means he wants things to change but just has no idea how to change them.

Please keep us updated and good luck with your appointment.

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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.

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Date Joined Aug 2008
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   Posted 8/18/2008 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   
im also finding it difficult with my partner. i am not coping though with it. i cant even get him to go to counciling with me...... i tried so hard... went on my own hoping he would start to come after a bit...or mayb if we went separately first...but he wouldnt go... just avoided it... we do try to work things out between us. we barely are affectionate anymore acheing to feel loved. i miss how times used to be...:(

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   Posted 8/18/2008 8:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Heels,

Welcome to the depression forum. Please do not dispair. We are here for you. I am so happy that you are going to counseling, even if he doesn't go. Your counselor will help you through this and we are here for you too.

Try to relax, getting stressed only makes things worse. I hope that you can find some pleasure in this one day. It is a start to the rest of your life. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

HUGS, Karen
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   Posted 8/19/2008 8:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to our forum.  The one thing that I can say is this, sometimes the depression hides behind  your actions and feelings.  Always, always stop and rationalize why you are doing or saying things that may to you at that time seem reasonable no matter how harsh the outcome might be.  You will find that the more supportive and attentive those people are to you are the very ones that you find aggitation and grief towards.
Counseling for me as been a good thing but you have to really look inside yourself and endure lots of pain and loss to understand that only you can control what happens in your life via actions and words.  Everyone else will either continue to love and support you or become distant and cold.
Reaching inside and understanding that you can only control your life.  It will be the toughest things to do.
Hope this helps

" Treat me like an angel and I'll show you heaven."

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   Posted 8/19/2008 6:19 PM (GMT -6)   


Hello, this is Kitt.  You have my prayers as  sense how bad you are feeling at this time.  Please do not beat yourself up as you are human and you are in pain.

It takes strength to be firm.
It takes courage to be gentle.

It takes strength to stand guard.
It takes courage to let down your guard.

It takes strength to conquer.
It takes courage to surrender.

It takes strength to be certain.
It takes courage to have doubt.

It takes strength to fit in.
It takes courage to stand out.

It takes strength to feel a friend’s pain.
It takes courage to feel your own pain.

It takes strength to hide your own pains.
It takes courage to show them.

It takes strength to endure abuse.
It takes courage to stop it.

It takes strength to stand alone.
It takes courage to lean on another.

It takes strength to love.
It takes courage to be loved.

It takes strength to survive.
It takes courage to live.

~Author Unknown~


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