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Date Joined Aug 2008
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   Posted 8/30/2008 6:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey, thanks to everyone who gave me advice with my last post, I wish I could say I listened for they all were great suggestions, but unfortunately I have only been able to log in now, and haven't been able to read the comments until just recently.
So here is a not so great update, by the way, please don't be disappointed..
So for a wee while, I got over this new guy, and even stopped talking to him completely, all was going okay until last night, we were both at my friends party. We kissed, and he told me all this stuff about how he does like me, and he thinks we should be together, and I know for an almost CERTAIN fact that he was sober.
Today he told a couple of my friends that he was very drunk, and that he probably wouldn't go out with me..
I know that this guy is a drop kick and a player, but all of this has just left me feeling very used, and not good enough..again.
My ex is being a great guy, as usual, and I did think that I was over him, but I am unsure, because I still feel something there, but maybe it'll always be there?
hmm i don't know. I just want to feel good enough for someone, without having to be used.
Any suggestions or comments?
Thanks guys

getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 8/30/2008 10:08 AM (GMT -6)   

You shouldn't worry about feeling good enough for anybody but yourself. Other people don't define us. We have to be happy with ourselves and that is what is important. ONce you start loving yourself you will see what I mean.

I know that there are a lot of users out there, but you will soon know the difference. Nobody likes to feel used. So don't let anybody use you. They aren't worth all of your time and attention.

You are a very very special person. And yes I meant to put both very's in there. You deserve somebody who will respect you. But first you have to learn to respect yourself and love yourself. This does come with time. But for the users and the losers, don't give them the time of day. You are too important for that.

Best wishes for you to find yourself and love yourself.

Luv and hugs, ...Karen
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 585
   Posted 8/30/2008 10:43 AM (GMT -6)   

I can only agree with Karen. The first step to love someone is to love yourself. I experienced that in its most recognizable form last week in Africa.

Once you are able to love yourself, I am sure that those who truly love you will be attracted to your shining light.

Loving yourself can be total acceptance of what you are, and you will know that you have reached this stage when you just know that you are good enough for anyone, and at the same time you love everyone else. Users won't dare to come near you anymore, and those who really love you for who you are will be attracted.

As Karen so rightly stated, all the best with finding and loving yourself. If you have trouble with beginning, try to take small steps, as saying to yourself in the mirror things like "I love you", summing up your good habits, or ask your friends to write down things they like about you.

Acceptance is the key

Existential depression and Insecurity

Try to keep smiling! :)

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 8/30/2008 5:39 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello and you are a good person and very worthy.  The world is a better place because you live within it.  Believe in you, love yourself and do not depend on others to validate your worth.

The new guy..........drop kick him to the curb and the next time you see him hold your head up high and walk right on by.

Most of us remember our first love and when you are much older you still remember that one person and wonder how they are.  It is normal.  That does not mean you should necessarily get back with him.

I would advice you to just be in the moment and when you meet someone recognize a con line when you hear it.  A solid  relationship takes more then one sudden meeting to be the real thing.  Only in movies do people look accross the room and there stands the love of their lives.

Take care and keep posting.



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