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   Posted 9/11/2008 5:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Feel a bit uncomfortable doing this at the moment but ill try it anyway.
Iv not long broke up with my girlfriend, we were together for a year and a half and it hit me hard.
Her friends are my friends so we do see eachother an it is really hard.
I talk to her online an pretend im fine an i hold all my emotions in when with my friends and pretend im happy when really i just want to shout or go crazy.
Im not really one for tlking bout my feelings as i find it hard so the only way i release my emotions an stress is through self harm.
It makes me feel better once iv done it but then i think about how stupid i am for doing it an it makes things worse yet i still do it.

Does anyone have any advice for me pls?

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   Posted 9/12/2008 3:18 AM (GMT -6)   

my advice is to do as much as you can to take your mind off your ex girlfriend. Try & stop talking to her online. I know you have the same friends so its difficult, but maybe try & spend less time with her, because seeing her often is just dragging things out.

If your not one for talking you could try writing your feelings down, because at least them you are getting them out, instead of letting them build up.
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   Posted 9/12/2008 6:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Hiya and Welcome to HealingWell!

Firstly I want to welcome you to our community. We are a cracking group and we all help and support each other. Usually there is at LEAST one other person in the same boat as you.

RE: Your problem... I would definitely stop talking to her online if it is causing you thins much anguish inside. Tell her that. Be open and honest but in a controlled way. You wont achieve anything by having a row with her. Hopefully your friends are supportive of both of you and will try not to make things any harder than they have to be.

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   Posted 9/12/2008 8:01 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with Darren and confusedli, talking to her online is only dragging things out and making you feel bad. Tell her this, you shouldnt have to be subjecting your slef to these situatuations.
As far as harming yourself(Ive been there many years ago, know the pain). You may wnt to see a counsler on that, because that cant continue on and i think you are aware of that.
Like Darrren said there is probably or probably has been someone in your boat here, so keep on posting, its important to get your feelings out and not hold them all in, or you'll explode.
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   Posted 9/12/2008 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to Healing Well.

I agree with Sheryl, you do need to get into counseling. Especially with the self harm situation. We try not to go into detail on here about that because there are young adults that read, but what you said was okay. But I think that counseling would help you to find another way to release your emotions.

Keep posting, we are here for you. We do not judge, just lend a sympathetic ear and shoulder. I wish you well.

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