Welcome to HealingWell. This is Kitt and I am sorry about your husband's depression and it does sound like he has tried the full gambit of therapy, Doctors and medicines.
I am gald you found us as there are many other spouses on this forum so this topic comes up frequesntly. I support you and I am here for you as are all the members.
The effects of depression can negatively impact every aspect of a person’s life—marriage, home life, work, and friendships. And the burden of living with a depressed spouse can take a heavy toll on the quality of a marriage.
Untreated depression poses a very real threat to a marriage. Recent research indicates that when one spouse suffers from depression, the likelihood is increased that both spouses will have an unhappy marriage.
When one spouse is depressed, the depression colors everything in the relationship. The depressed spouse sees the world through a darkened lens that limits his or her perspective. Any negative events are interpreted even more negatively, neutral events are also interpreted negatively, and the positive happenings are often overlooked.
You are in a situation where you have to take care of you first as you may benefit from therapy for just you. Remember to love yourself and do things just for you. You deserve to be happy.
Are there any inpatient units your husband would qualify for?
Remember depression is a real disorder. Your husband should not have to feel ashamed as he did not choose depression.
I will pray for you and hope you hubby will go to therapy and stick to it. It is hard work but he can do it.
Vent way on here all you want as Aurora already said.