Posted 9/15/2008 12:09 PM (GMT -6)
Does anyone know where a 57 year old woman can find friends? I have no family except the best son in the world. I actually have a daughter, too but she does not like me. I am financially dependent on my son for life (long story, won't bore you) so I have to live with him. We get along fine but he is gone a lot and I would like to have someone my age. My health insurance premium is so high it takes almost everything I have and since it rises every year, it will soon equal more than my small spousal support. That keeps me from being able to do much. I also have Ulcerative Colitis. It is mild but I am tired a lot and I can't afford the medicines I am supposed to be on.
I don't want to bog the person down with my problems, I am very pleasant despite them and don't talk about them to others, just on this board. I have 2 college degrees but I'm unable to get work at my age. My husband left me at 51 after 28 years as a stay at home mom. It was because of the strain on my family put there by a terrible daughter. I have tried church with no luck (I don't go there JUST to find friends.)
I wish I could maybe get involved with something having to do with my education. I am an RN with a full 4 year University degree and a Certified Public Accountant. (I don't know if I am alowed to tell that, If not, delete it and accept my apology).
I like to help people. I like to be nice to them and make them feel good.
All I do all day is sit on the couch and watch tv or lie in bed and watch tv. I hate TV I would not be so lonely if I could read. I cannot read due to bad eyesight and my insurance won't let me see an eye doctor for another year. In 2006 a miracle happened and I actually got a job, but had to leave it after 2 hours because I could not see the numbers. They sent me across the street to a K-Mart to get some of those non-RX glasses, but they did not work. An optomitrist later told me those fix the opposite of what is wrong with my eyes. I have not been able to read for three years and I miss it. From the time I could read, my mother would take me to the library and I would get 12 books at a time, the limit. At our local library, I had started with the A's and was reading through the library. I actually got to see an eye doctor last year but all he did was have some teen-agers make me look through some machines then he came in for all of 2 minutes backing out the door the whole time. When I told him I have not been able to read for 3 years he waved his hand and said get some of those glasses from K-Mart (see above!). I literally chased him down the hall trying to ask my questions. He disappeared into a patient room and that was it for my optical insurance benefits for another 2 years. I can go back October, 2009.
The reason I got off on the eye thing is because if I could read I could handle the lonliness a lot better and my post is about finding friends because I am so lonely.
All the sitting around caused me to develop a dangerous blood clot in my leg on 2006. Now I am on blood thinners for life and have to go to the blood thinner clinic every few weeks for blood work. For life. I just have to find some friends and get out. I can't just go for a walk, either. I live in an area where people let dangerous dogs run free.
Ulcerative Colitis since about 1976
Pan colitis since at least 1994
30 years with UC and never had a flare until MD gave massive dose of Magnesiun while hospitalized for bronchitis. I had no family doctor so they had just assigned me to the house doctor. Then was hospitalized a few days for moderate flare. No flares since. But now I have a family doctor.