someone help me please? depressed

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   Posted 9/23/2008 8:42 PM (GMT -6)   
so i am 20 and some say that i have been through more than most in a life time. i got married at 18. got pregnant 2 months later. he ran out. (didn't want kids) i met my fiance 2 months later. just after i turned 19. well i had my daughter in january and she past away in april of sids. one day away from 3 months old. i joined the army when i turned 18 and was discharged just before my 19th bday because i was pregnant and they were leaving for iraq. well when i was in i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder. i had to stop meds when i was pregnant and i felt fine up until 2 months after i had my daughter, after that i was depressed all the time and me and my fiance started fighting a lot and then when our daughter past it got worse. it's been 5 months and depression has gotten worse we are still fighting and i have no insurance to go see a doctor. so what do i do? i can't afford to pay it outright and i can't afford insurance. someone please help me......

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   Posted 9/23/2008 10:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I would check to see if your local hospital has group that meets for depression. I would also look to see if there are any state agencies that can help. With me, my depression only deepens unless I get help from both medicine and talk therapy.
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   Posted 9/24/2008 8:02 AM (GMT -6)   


Good Morning, this is Kitt.  I agree you have not had a good life lately and I am so very, very sorry at the death of your daughter.  I have lost a son so I know the pain of losing a child. 

You may want to check out this forum on SIDS:

Also you could join a grief support meeting. Here is where you can find info on Compassionate Friends.
To the best of my knowledge there are groups in every state.

I believe your depression is about the losses in your life and you have had a major loss with the death of your daughter.

Do you have a clergy person that you could talk with?  Sometimes they can help you with finding some funding for Therapy.

Again, you have my deepest sympathy.

Gentle Hugs



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   Posted 9/24/2008 3:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I just want to offer condolences for the loss of your child. I can't imagine the pain that you have endured. I just lost my nephew to suicide last week and I know that the grieving process goes on for a long time. I can only imagine how much time it will take you after losing your daughter.

I think that Kitt gave you some good resources and advice. I would check these things out. And as always, we are here for you too. So keep posting, you have a lot of healing time ahead of you. We are here for you. Please remember that.

Again I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.

Gentle hugs, Karen
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   Posted 9/24/2008 8:12 PM (GMT -6)   

I too am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.  You have been through a lot and the people on this forum will help you.  You mentioned you were in the army.  Is there any chance that you have benefits as a veteran even though you were discharged?  I would think you would be eligible for some type of veteran's benefits.  I could be wrong but it would be worth a try to see if they can help.  Again the people here are always around to help you through a tough time and always willing to answer your posts and give you comfort.  Take good care of yourself.


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