i see a counselor at my school, too.(free! you're right lol). wonderful wonderful person. the thing is is i just feel its a waste of time. other students could be coming in with bigger problems while i sit there like an idiot. its a waste of both of ours time.
not old, but not young.
i dont have a psychiatrist. im not on any mental medications. (though i probably should be).
The putting your problems thing in perspective is good every once in a while. Like, X person went through a hurricane, perhaps I won't die if I'm stuck in traffic for 10 mins longer today (at least I have a car/roof over my head , blah blah). Yet, I want to be very emphatic when I say this piece because someone gave me this advice long ago when I began posting on boards like these and on Q&A sites. NEVER compare your problems to other peoples and say "well they just had all of this stuff happen, therefore my problems are insignificant and therefore no one would care about
them anyway." . That's completely and utterly false. It doesn't matter if something as small as you were bummed about
a B+ on a test while some kids in Africa don't get to go to school. NO. Never never think like that. Your problems are not insignificant, no matter how "small" in magnitude... if they matter to you or if they bother you enough, then they are very much important and you should not feel guilty about
It does take a while to think with that mindset though. I'm not the master of optimism myself, but I try and remind myself of this every time I catch myself comparing my problems to others. Comparing my problems to others does me not a single bit of good because my problems still exist. Just because I compare them, doesn't solve them so I try and face them whenever I can.