How do you get you inner voice to be quiet!

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   Posted 10/2/2008 5:37 AM (GMT -6)   
I have been doing really good lately, I have been calm & relaxed and not angry or moody or snappy.  BUT! this week I feel like it's starting to come back!!  Aaaarrrggghh! My thoughts are racing like crazy.  I cannot stop thinking. My inner voice is constantly whispering irrational thoughts to me, like that my boyfriend is cheating on me, or lying to me or not paying me enough attention or all kinds of things, which in reality are totally not true.  I have progressed to the point where I can generally keep these to myself, without causing arguements or trouble or throwing accusations around, but that doesn't mean that these sorts of thoughts don't hurt me, they tire me out so much.
Lately I have been so happy, my job is going great, relationship going great, family are good, for the last month or so everything has been lovely, but now all of a sudden my mind is working overtime again & causing problems where there are none!
Not even sure what I am looking for in writing this, I am seeing my counsellor tomorrow so hopefully that will help!
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   Posted 10/2/2008 6:55 AM (GMT -6)   

I know exacly what you mean as I have the same problem sometimes. Have you tried relaxation techniques like breathing and meditation? I find they generally work for me. Sometimes I have a conversation with my 'inner voice' to work through the problem but I generally wouldnt do that where people could hear me! lol

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   Posted 10/2/2008 9:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Eej Li!

Intense focus on my breathing always works for me, as is listening to the birds if there around. Or visualizing yourself surrounded by bright light, and beginning to glow with every breath you take.

Something else that helps keeps my voice down in the long run is to simple remember that "this moment is for my greatest benefit". This exact moment, and everything that is here (including the voice), is what I need to most right now. This moment will help me the most right now, and also in what will come. Everything that happens is in only happening because it will help me.

I hope that you can stay in the moment and forget about time, since the illusion of time and the inner voice are inseparable.
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Try to keep smiling! :)

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   Posted 10/2/2008 10:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Li,

Erik gave you some wonderful advice. I second that. When my innervoice starts talking back to me, I try to repeat in my head the word 'stop' three times. So often that helps me.

But like Erik said, try to listen to the birds, or do some meditation. Or you could even come up with your own defense when this happens. I think that this time of the year brings back memories and many different thoughts. Maybe it is the season.

I wish you the very best my friend. You can do this, I know that you can.

As I think that I mentioned to you in my email to you today. I take abilify for obsessive thinking. And it really does help. There is also a medication called risperdol that does the same thing. But the abilify gives me a little energy which helps me.

Best wishes to you for a lovely day.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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