My husband was sexually abused at age 13. He started going to counseling in March to talk to a counselor about
it. Two months later, we started marriage counseling. By June, he said he wasn't happy and wanted a separation. He and I have continued to go to counseling, individually and together. I thought everything was getting better when just two days ago, he told me he doesn't love himself and therefore is not ready to come home because he doesn't know how to love me. I know he's suffering from a lot of shame and is blaming himself for what happened. Sometimes he
opens up but his personality has changed so much over the years he seems like a totally different person. His physical appearance has worsened and he seems to suffer from so much internal conflict. He also has a very stressful job as CEO of a small business.
Throughout all of this, he still wants to see me, talk with me all the time, and even asked me on a date this Sat. night. Since he's now gone from living in a hotel for 2 1/2 months to looking for an apartment, dating just seems too weird. The counselor said he's choosing isolation over intimacy with me and that he's definitely depressed. My husband agreed to try Wellbutrin. I don't know a lot about depression but do his behaviors indicate he needs medication to help him think more objectively and clearly? I also don't know how I'm supposed to react with him. Not certain if I'm ready to "date" him but will be there as a sounding board because I love him very much and want him home. How long until the Wellbutrin kicks in? I know it's just a band-aid but will it help? Please help!!! Thank you