Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum,
You have met 2 of our wonderful members and they have advised you well.
I am sorry for your husband but I feel for you and how sad this must make you feel.
Please remember to take care of you and love yourself. Know you are a good person and very worthy of happiness. AS far as your going on a date with him, that must be your decision as your own mental health is involved in this situation as well as your husbands.
Please know I am thinking of you and keep posting.