I lost a lot of friends when I was first diagnosed, and in subsequent years when I had another episode. My parents are very supportive, some of which comes from my mum having depression too, for most of her adult life so both mum and dad have learnt to live with it and handle it. My grandparents don't ever talk about it.
Now I'm very open about the fact I have depression and some of my friends are fine with it and others don't want to know. My closest friends are very supportive and they are the ones who see me in good and bad times. Others can't reconcile the fact that I have depression with their perception of who I am.
Depression accompanied with psychotic features can be particularly difficult to cope with, for everyone involved. The word 'psychotic' has such stigma attached to it, maybe people are afraid and not sure they can cope with what might happen. Have you tried to explain to them exactly what your husband's depression causes? My official diagnosis is recurrent clinical depression with psychotic features and the stigma of the latter part means that I very rarely tell anyone the full diagnosis.
Dx: Panic Disorder, Psychotic Depression, Rheumatoid Arthritis
Rx: Humira, Methotrexate, Plaquenil, Prednisolone, Codeine, Diclofenic Sodium, Folic Acid, Propranolol, Citalopram