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   Posted 10/14/2008 8:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello...Um.. I'm really only sixteen years old and I don't think I'm really sure if I have deppression or not. I recently moved to a new High School but I have no interest in making friends or talking with people yet when I see friends together laughing it makes me feel really sad. When I see my classmates talking with each other I can't help but just stare at them and I find that I can't say anything. Which is weird because I was so outgoing that people thought I was too open. have a small sendimental problem which keeps me clinging to past friends, objects, pictures, tickets and even something as insignificant as a broken feather. It's just, its so sad when I think of throwing something away. I feel like its part of my life and I need to keep it. Like the feather my friend picked off on the ground at a concert. I just couldn't throw it away.
It's more than a fact that I have no interest in the classes I used to love last year. Even Art Class for me is seemingly dull. I kind of just find myself not concentrating without even knowing that I was drifting off. I tried really hard to concentrate during an essay today but it's like nothing's there. And my normally B grades are now Cs even Ds. And honestly, the first time I learned that fact I was indifferent and shrugged it off. I keep thinking as long as I make it through this day then I'll be fine. But, of course, nothing changes.
I'm not normally like this. I'm very sarcastic, funny and really carefree. Well, I was. Now I can barely even answer questions. I used to kill myself trying to get my hand highest so I could read in class because I was a very smooth reader. But I have a huge stuttering problem right now and my words get slurred together.
I would really like some help, I don't know what happened or what started this.

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   Posted 10/14/2008 8:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum Tea party for two.

I think that it is going to take time for you to get use to your new surroundings. It sounds like you are unsettled from the move. It may take a while for you to make new friends. But I am sure that you will. And I am sure that you will get your old self back. It is just going to take some adjusting and some time.

Try hard to keep your grades up to where they were. Try to focus in class and do your homework. You need to make your studies most important and the rest will fall into place for you.

Try not to be so hard on yourself right now, you have to get familiar with your new surroundings and you will then relax. It sounds like this is a little stressful for you right now, but it doesn't have to be. Try to just go with the flow of things, you will meet new friends soon and you will be just fine and back to yourself in no time.

Take care, keep posting, we are here for you. We will be your new friends.

Hugs, Karen
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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 10/15/2008 5:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey there tea.

I just joined here also. I have to say that you can't hold back. People love charisma and self respect. Keeping your grades up will make you feel better as a person and thats very important. You have to believe in yourself though. Talk to someone in class, make conversation with a stranger. If you say you aren't from here, people will want to help. If they don't, you don't want them as your friend anyway.

I'm sure things will get better soon.

If you need someone to talk to my aim is manonfire55555. I'm always willing to talk. I need someone to talk to sometimes too.

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Date Joined Jan 2006
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   Posted 10/15/2008 9:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell,

Personally, I dont think this sounds like depression but it does sound like it has the potential to develop into Depression if you dont try and solve the problem but I am not a doctor.

Some people (And I was one of them!) have a really hard time adjusting to changes in social situations. Whether its a new job, new school or new neighbourhood. The best thing to do is to give yourself small goals. Start with some really basic stuff like "Today, I am going to talk to 5 people" (Even if you only say hello and have a 10 second conversation). Work up to having friends and arranging / going to social events (Birthday parties etc...)

What I would say is dont try and run before you can walk though... otherwise you fall over. But even if you fall over... you can get up again, right?

Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
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