Posted Yesterday 12:59 PM (GMT -6)
hey. thanks for your advice. i know youre moderators so youre obligated to repsond to me, but still i appreciate the help i did get. im going to start concentrating on the life i once had more now.
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Posted Yesterday 2:50 PM (GMT -6)
Hey BTE,

We respond to you because we want to. We aren't obligated to respond to anybody. We only have to moniter the forum and watch for inappropriate post and spam. So we want to respond. I hope that my post didn't come off sounding like I felt obligated, if it did, I am sorry.

I just wanted to make sure that I understood everything. And I am happy that you are going to work on your own issues. I know that you are going to school and I am assuming that you are working too. You sound very busy and that is good for you. But I think that you are right in wanting to keep your priorities straight, the rest falls into place.

Please keep posting, we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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Posted Yesterday 4:03 PM (GMT -6)

Hey there, BTE,

We are not obligated to post to every single post on the boards, in fact if all we did was monitor the forums, welcome people  and keep the members safe we are doing our job.

However most of the moderators love meeting the members and helping them because we want to sweetie. Please don't assume our posts are not honest and genuine.

You posted "I've been going out with a close friend of mine. We're not "official" but we go out sometimes."

I guess in my mind the word "official" says it all.  He may not consider you the love of his life but a good friend and he is not willing to spend all his time with you.

He also does not know how you feel about him and it is hard to guess what is in someones mind.  Talk to him and be ready for him to not want an official relationship.

Keep on with your studies.

Gentle Hugs to you



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Posted Today 10:35 PM (GMT -6)
Thank you.
If anyone is wondering, I'm feeling a little better but at the same time, not really. I haven't talked to this boy in a few days which makes me feel like I have control of a normal life again, but at the same time I'm sad because I think he's lost interest.
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Posted 10/23/2008 12:10 AM (GMT -6)
Hi eyes,

Oh my goodness I just went through this myself so I feel like I have to offer you my opinion and advice! Actually, I must be going through some kind of bad karma, because there have been so many times I thought I was starting a relationship with a guy, when really, he just wanted to make out! Not to offend any men on this forum, but from my perspective, girls are more emotional about physical intimacy. We think a kiss means "I love you," or at least "I want to date you." But some guys just view the "relationship" as a friends with benefits/no strings attached situation. If this guy isn't giving you the attention you deserve, and causing you this much stress, I would end things immediately and start accepting those dates from guys who are looking for a possible relationship! You deserve to be treated with love and respect. Don't settle for anything less.

Just to make sure I keep all my male friends on this forum...:-) I do realize some girls play games too and that not all men take advantage of girls this way. But sometimes, I think guys think girls are on the same page about what a relationship is or isn't because there's a huge lack of communication about what the other person is or isn't looking for.

Posted 10/23/2008 8:51 AM (GMT -6)

Good Morning BTE,

I am glad to hear you are a bit better but still sad.  NightWish gave you great advice.  Remember you deserve respect and you are a good person. 

I think perhaps you are feeling more depressed right now after the break up with your other b/f.  Don't try so hard, just let it happen and it will. Work on your self esteem and remember you are a fun and interesting person.  When you accept a date just go with the flow and don't look at the date as your new b/f but just a date.

Keep your standards high and know we are all here to encourage you.

We support you.



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