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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 10/20/2008 5:44 PM (GMT -6)   
So where to begin.

I'm J. I'm a guy originally from Costa Rica. I moved to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina during the fall of 2005. Winter of 2006, I met a girl at my school named Logan. We started talking and everything, nothing major. Once we summer came, we continued to talk on myspace and everything. So summer passed, and when school started Logan was in 2 of my classes. We started talking alot more and began to get really close. We eventually became bestfriends. We hung out at school alot, eventually we'd go to the mall and other places. We started going to shows at the House of Blues together too. Anyways, we began to get really, really close. By spring we were unbreakable. Summer was getting nearer and nearer and the work permit I was on, along with my parents and sister (J1 Visa) expired at the end of June, so you could say I literally had my days counted. On the night of my moms birthday my friend Hunter and me lied and spent the night at his girlfriends house, where Logan was spending the night too. So that night, Logan came up to me and told me how much she was gonna miss me and I told her how much I loved her and yea... Later that night, Hunter and me started talking about how far he'd gone with his girlfriend and how much more he was beginning to like her. And then he told me that I should kiss Logan. How it was obvious that she'd like me for a while and that it was about time we dated. I told him, yea, he was right. So that night, we watched a movie, I went for the kiss, by the morning we were dating.
We were together for just the first 3 weeks of summer. I left for Costa Rica to get my visa renewed to the H1 not the J1. And that we were gonna stay, but were gonna move to Bluffton, South Carolina; 3 hours south from Myrtle Beach. Once I returned, I was only with Logan for a couple of hours. I moved down.

I know she's my one and only love. I've been in love with her for a while now. But it's not  fair. I get to see her twice a month if Im lucky. I miss her like hell. She means the world to me, but I'm still not able to keep her.

I've been depressed for a good 3 months now. Nothing can get me out of it. I'm numb. School sucks, I have no friends like I did at my old school. I miss every one. My relationship with Logan is perfect, despite the fact that we see each other so little. The time were together is magical. But once it's time to leave, that's when things get bad. I manage told hold the tears off until I'm safe within the comfort of my room. That's when it all sets off. I bawl my eyes off all night (yea...) I dont know what to do anymore. I've been relying on God's care all my life, it feels like he's forsaken me, religion just doesn't seem to bring any comfort. It doesn't fill the hole.

So please, if you have some advice, it would be GREATLY appreciated.

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 10/22/2008 10:19:44 PM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 363
   Posted 10/21/2008 3:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Costaxrica,

I think that you can be comforted that you have met a girl that you love, some people never have that in their lives. Its an amazing feeling to be in love so try to enjoy it as much as you can.

It must be hard to see each other so little, but I think you should try not too be too upset about something which you can't change, you have to make the most of what you do have. I guess you probably manage to talk quite a lot aswell so thats good.

Maybe you should try some new hobbies or interests to help you to meet new people & to fill your time so that you have less time to think about how much you are missing Logan. I think in time you will make new friends and that will help with how you are feeling right now!

Hope that has helped some,

"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"

New Member

Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 5
   Posted 10/21/2008 10:58 AM (GMT -6)   

I share your sorrow and pain of missing your partner; I miss mine also; he is in another state, and we only see each other every 3-4 weeks, for just 1-2 days.

I fully agree with Li's message to you; try to focus on yourself and keep busy with things that you find enjoyable. Develop yourself.

Love is a wonderful thing, and I am happy you (and I) have found someone.

But keep in mind that we, in the end, are truly responsible for making ourselves happy. No one but ourselves can do that for us.

Be well, and hang in there. You can do this.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 10/22/2008 11:27 PM (GMT -6)   


Welcome to HealingWell.  I remember my first love and he was in the service and we were apart for so long,  things changed and  we were kept apart from each other.

I was only 17 years old and I had to do what my parents wanted me to do at the time.  I was broken hearted and then one day I heard he was with someone else. He maried the someone else.

I was crushed but I cried myself to sleep and just kept getting up everyday and doing what I had to do.  The relationship was over and I was very angry at the people who interfered as they felt they knew what was best for me.  I did get past it and did find the love of my life but your first true love always stays with you no matter how it turns out.

I also realized he must not have trusted me enough to somehow communicate with me to find out what the issues were.

I wish you the best but do take care of you and remember time goes by very quickly.

Again a warm welcome to peace.




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