It started about 3 months ago, myself and my wife ive known about 7yrs started arguing, she works sometimes over 30 days straight and over 12 hours a day so obviously anything i say will irritate her but i didnt expect it go this far! After one argument she said she was leaving to go to her moms so i just let her go thinking it was just a small row and she will be back. But days past and her mom said she wasnt even staying at her house anymore, she called her mom saying she was now staying with her friend. Myself and her mom of course first thought maybe she has found somebody else but deep down i knew that she is not like that, and im thinking i hadnt done anything wrong it was just petty little squables. I think im a good husband im a chef so i cook, i clean, do house work, gardening whatever it takes around the house i do my fair share, im her first love we are both younger, but for our ages we have a lot of responsibilities we both have good jobs, our own house, we are married, things i would say are big for people of our age. But anyway now she is saying she wants a separation and is blaming me for everything that went wrong in our marriage she will call me yelling about finances or things ive done wrong, then go crying to her parents. Her parents are on my side saying she is crazy for throwing her life away that we have worked so hard to build over such small things. But some of the things she says really hurt, things like we should have never got married, i dont love you anymore. She is on such an up and down road, then early last week she came crying to her mom saying that she needs to go to the doctor. As i suspected the doctor said she is suffering from deep depressive dissorder and prescribed her lexapro and said why didnt she come in sooner. (as we know it can be hard to get someone to admit they have a problem) however she wont admit it to me still that she is suffering with this condition, we arnt even on speaking terms, she has gotten that deep in the depression, her mom told me as she feels i have a right to know, but i feel i should stand by her as i still love her with all my heart and i feel that even though she is saying these spitefull things i know its the condition talking. I want to stand by her but she has to tell me first. What is there to do???