When my husband goes to work, he's gone for anywhere from a few days to a month at a time. The problem is, when he leaves, I usually fall apart. Most of the time it's when he's gone longer, which has been a lot lately. I just get overwhelmed, frustrated, and stressed out, mostly because it's hard when he's not around to help. So when we talk on the phone and I tell him how I'm feeling, he's never supportive about
it in any way. He does, however, tell me that I'm crazy and psychotic. He tells me that I just can't handle life and need to be put on medication. He has a friend he works with, who is also gone from his family all the time, and my husband will tell me that I need to be more like his friend's wife, because she can handle it. When we get into a fight about
it on the phone, he will hang up and not answer my phone calls. I have to sit around and wait until he's ready to talk again, which just makes the matter worse.
All I want is for him to be supportive. He never tries nice words to make me feel better about being overwhelmed. He goes straight for telling me I'm crazy. I know that if he'd just be genuinely concerned about what's wrong with me, I would feel so much better, but it's as if it's too much for him to do. I tell him what I need, then the next time I get frustrated, it's the same thing. There have been two times where I have been at the end of my rope and actually talked to him about getting separated or divorced. Then, and only then, will he ever put any effort in. But then it quickly goes back to the same old thing. I do not want to have to mention divorce just for my husband to wake up, and I shouldn't have to. I feel like giving up anymore. I feel there are no other options when he just won't listen to me. I don't want to end the marriage, but he gives me no choice when he doesn't even care about my feelings.
He does everything in his power to make me feel ashamed for even having feelings. And it sucks, because if I knew that he was feeling bad in any way, I would do everything I possibly could to make him feel better, but it's as if it'll be a cold day in hell before he ever cares.
I'm up against a wall and just don't know what to do. All I do is cry anymore and don't know how to think straight. I'm beginning to wonder if I really am just crazy and if I'm asking too much of him. Any friends and family that I have are way too busy for any of my problems, so I have no one to vent to. I'm holding it all in and I'm afraid of the outcome.