Yes I believe that it is normal for her to push her loved ones away at this time, but I hope that she is still spending time with the little one. It would be horrible if she felt unloved.
I really think that your counseling will help you and give you support. So try to hang on to that thought. Your counseling should give you strength and you wont get dragged down with her, though that does happen. But in your case, I think you will be able to stay strong. Lets hope that continues.
Love changes and grows even without depression. It might not be exactly the same as it was before, it could be better in different ways. A more mature love, a more nurturing love. Let's see what happens when the time comes. I would try to take this one step at a time. I am sure when you go to your counseling, they will help you with that. It makes it more stressful when you worry about
the future. One day at a time is all that you can do right now.
We all haven't stayed strong. We all have moments that are harder than others. But I think with the support of this group, we all have recovered in one way or another. We are all here for eachother and that seems to get us through. Don't get me wrong, this is a very difficult time of the year. And not all of us are up to snuff so to speak. It is stressful and we all work very hard to keep our heads above water. But we stick together and really try hard. It isn't always as easy as it sounds, but I think this is a marvelous group and we are all here for eachother. I am glad that you have joined us. We will help you as much as we can.
Make sure to give yourself a pat on the back for coming as far as you have. Living with a depressed spouse is no picnic. But it is so obvious that you love her and want things to work. Take it one step at a time and try to be there for her. Let you know that you love her no matter what. And keep us posted. I think that her going out of the house is a way of healing. Most depressed people don't even want to leave the house. What does she do when she leaves? Where does she go? These are things that you should also address with your counselor. I think that once you start getting that support, things will get easier for you. Just don't give up my friend.
Luv and hugs, Karen
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
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