When she goes out, she usually goes out with friends. Her main reason for leaving the house is that it's a sad place for her. I think when she is out, it helps her to forget about things. However, she is starting to find more peace going out alone and being away from people. She is starting to shut out her family (the parents live with us) and I know they are worried too.
Now, we do have marriage issues also. Nothing major...just the typical fights that couples have. We always make up and keep moving forward. However, it seems that this last fight we had just pushed her over the edge. I'm not convinced (in fact, I'm pretty sure) that the fight we had is the whole reason behind her behavior. Knowing her for as long as I have, there are definitely other issues. If it were just us, she would still be doing the normal stuff with the kids (she loves them very much). At this point, I'm pretty much doing everything for them (taking over her "mommy" duties so to speak). She loves them so much that I know she wouldn't not spend time with them unless there were other things involved.
Having said that, based on the dramatic change in her mood/behavior (i.e., crying for not apparent reason, isolating herself from us, etc...), I'm definitely looking forward to her seeing her doctor. In regards to that, should I call the doctor ahead of the appointment to let him know what is happening? I want to be pro-active but don't want to overstep my boundaries, causing her to push me away even further.