Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. I am happy that you have joined us.
You are not alone. There are a lot of people that feel the same way that you do. But what they learn here is that you have to start with helping yourself to feel good about
yourself. Before you can be happy with other people, genuinly happy, you have to learn to love yourself. You cannot depend on other people to make you feel good. That all comes from within.
I am sure that other people have suggested clubs and sports, that is a way to make friends and meet people. What about
other interests that you have. Art, photography, reading. You can meet people in all the places that you would frequent doing such things. Such as a book store or a library.
It takes time to have a genuine friend, it doesn't happen over night. You are probably seeing people that just hang out together, you can do that with anybody.
Are you going to any counseling? That is a good way to get your feelings out and observe what it is that you feel you are lacking. I assure you that when you start liking yourself and accepting yourself for who you are that you will eventually make friends. But don't expect your friendship to be perfect, there are always obstacles in any relationship. Things don't always run smoothly.
I am sorry that your previous friends rented an apartment without you. It must have just worked out that they hooked up with the thing when you weren't there. But things like that happen. It doesn't mean that they like you any less. Though it may feel that way, doesn't make it so.
I hope that this is helping you some. I know that you probably want to hear different things than I have to say, but this is just my opinion. It doesn't make it a rule or a law. That is just the way that I percieve it at this time.
You do have to make an effort to meet people if that is what your goal is. You have to be in the right places at the right time I guess. What I am trying to say it that you have to be out there. Though you may get to know somebody in your classroom and become friends, but that is because you were there.
I hope you have success with your venture.
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies