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   Posted 12/10/2008 2:19 AM (GMT -6)   
After her 3 weeks were up, she went back only after she was fully out of pills, and after i argued with her not to ran out before going back, which i was very happy that she went in by herself to see the doctor she did not want me to go with her.My concern is that she is keeping where she is staying so secretive that she cannot even say where she is staying to her Dad, so does anyone know if this is a common thing to do, i don't want to get into any disagreement with her but i am so worried i can't sleep i have bad pains in my stomach, she phone and say she is ok, but just telling us that is not enough for us we need to know for sure....

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   Posted 12/10/2008 9:07 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to HW!
Depression often leads to isolation. The feelings of uselessness and sadness make you to stay away from others. But please try to be supportive for your daughter (?)! If she sees that you are worrying as well, she might feel bad for being the cause of that, which will only make things worse. Maybe you can show her your love and compassion as often as you can, be a support for her, someone who will always love her no matter what happened.

And you can never be sure. I am sorry to say that, but until you are able to read someone's mind you can never be sure. So please don't feel bad because you are not sure, it will only trigger more worry and negative thoughts. With me, I saw my parent's worrying, and thus I said I was OK when I wasn't, just to comfort them. But then my parent's took a more positive approach by not stressing anymore, but rather be a support for me. Then I felt comfortable telling them the truth.

I hope this somewhat helps, and feel free to keep on writing to us!

Have a wonderful day!
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   Posted 12/10/2008 1:01 PM (GMT -6)   

Erik is right on with his reply.  I am so sorry you are sick with worry.  Just be there for her and let her understand that you know she has to work this out herself but you love hurt.

Prayers to you


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   Posted 12/10/2008 2:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I think Kitt is spot on. Sometimes you have to let people make mistakes in order for them to learn but its important that she knows you will be there to help if she needs support

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