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   Posted 12/28/2008 6:13 PM (GMT -6)   
This may sound really really silly and selfish, but I'm very very depressed because I cant get the things I want. I'm dying for a laptop that I cant afford. I cant get approved for credit which seems to be the only way I could afford one. And I dont understand why I want one so bad. I have a perfectly good computer that I got about 4 years ago that works just fine but yet I want something newer....It's making me so I cant eat or sleep or wanna do anything, even leave my house. How do I get over this selfishness, I know I dont need one but it's all I think about. And it's always somethng like this, whether it's a tv, cell phone, cars....And someone like me, who's below poverty (all I get is SSI and welfare for my kids) doesnt need things like this, I should be grateful, but yet I'm you think thereapy could help me???

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   Posted 12/28/2008 11:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Kitty,

Yes I do think that therapy would help you to not be wanting things that you don't have. Eventually though you will forget about it. It is just probably new in your mind right now. But I think therapy would be good for you.

Best wishes, I hope that you try the therapy.

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   Posted 12/29/2008 5:41 AM (GMT -6)   

therapy might help you get to the root of WHY you feel the need to have the latest model of everything. trust me, there are a million nice shiny new things i want, and i got a few of them using credit cards that i have now maxed out and the repayments are hell. i learned the hard way with my spending habits. ive accepted that i have to live within my means, but it took a long time to work that out and it came at a great price. (i have chopped up the credit cards and am paying them off, the interest is brutal).


i hope you can get the answers you need and i think therapy is a good place to start-

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   Posted 12/29/2008 8:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Heej Kitty,

Yes, craving is awfully hard to overcome. And yes, gratitude is the way to go. I try to be grateful for everything I can use, whether it is food, a computer, a house, a bed, whatever. This is rather more useful than I though at first, as being grateful for being able to use something makes me enjoy it even more, as it would be the last days I could use it. It will make me think of what I should do, what will make me most happy. I used to sit behind my computer wasting time by surfing. Nowadays, I try to think of what will make me most happy, what is the best thing to do. I even think that with a little more practice I should be able to stop the negative emotions associated with the loss of something we want, like a computer. Maybe you can try to express your gratitude towards things as well, just say: "Thanks for letting me use this". The Thanks can refer that whatever you want, whether it is a God, or just the entire Universe.

I hope this somewhat helps.
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