OK, thank you helping me see what she is going through. I hope you are right and this is not really how she feels. My question now is what/how do I proceed? I have cooked her dinner, taken her out to exhibits, given her flowers, jewelery, a handbag she had been hinting at for a long time, I decorated the house for Christmas while she was at work to surprise her, washed and waxed her car myself, installed a new custom closet system for her shoes and clothes while she was at work, I am trying to be a better communicator and i try to always ask if she needs anything. Please understand, this is not a burden to me I want to make her happy and I want to be the man she needs me to be, but I don't know if I am helping or just making her more depressed. I would do anything to help her be happy and see her smile. But, nothing seems to help and I didn't realize how precious her talking to me and her reassurance was in how i felt about myself. I'm so afraid to do the wrong thing and lose her. Could you give me suggestions of things to do for her? Thank you for your help, I have been to the counselor by myself and she told me to hold back for now and just be there for her. She also said that I need to do things for myself, but my wife is my world.