I honestly think that it is the depression talking. I don't think that she actually feels that way. Give her some time. Especially where the lupus is concerned. We have a wonderful lupus forum too if you would like to visit it.
Don't give up on your relationship quite yet. Though I feel that she probably could use some medications, she is facing a big thing. Stick by her side as long as you can. And don't be afraid to get some counseling for yourself, you could use the support with all that you are going through.
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