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Date Joined Jan 2009
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   Posted 1/8/2009 6:14 PM (GMT -6)   
thank you guys for your responses to my last post (new to this...).
ive been on ambilify for a couple months now on a pretty low dosage because it made me feel sick when i first started...
sometimes it is so hard to get out of bed in the morning. like i literally love my ex boyfriend...and even though im only 18 i feel as though hes the only for me and i will never be over him. and knowing we cant be together makes it very hard. plus, on top of it all, losing some friends who i had been friends with for years has been really difficult. i feel like im failing at everything and i dont really know how to keep getting through each day when i am absolutely miserable. i have trouble just getting out of the bed in the morning, i cant focus on my school work, and i dont have the desire to do anything. how do you guys do it? how do you function day to day and be happy? i havent been able to find a day where i can say i had a good day, or ive been happy, for 4 months now... sad  i dont know what to do anymore.

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   Posted 1/8/2009 6:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Horserider02,

I find that I have to take life one day at a time, but I have fibromyalgia too and I never know if I will even get out of bed the next morning.

I go to counseling every month also and that really helps a lot. I have had depression for over thirty years, so it has become like, old hat, I guess that you would say. But I have tried many different meds and the only thing that has seemed to work without bad side effects is the effexor and abilify. Since the abilify, I have been doing rather good. Not much in the line of depression. My psychiatrist says that it is in remission. So that is good.

I try to keep a positive attitude, it isn't always easy, a lot of hard work. And I try to find pleasure in the simple things in life. But I don't do much. I can't work, which is a bummer. Though I would like to try, but know that I would only get disappointed. So if you can work, do so, it does so much for your self esteem.

Walking is another thing that does me good. It releases endorphines. When I can walk I always feel better. I also use meditation as a way to relax. And exercise helps a lot.

I hope that this helps you some.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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Date Joined Feb 2005
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   Posted 1/8/2009 11:06 PM (GMT -6)   
hi horserider02, I wonder like you how people can do it while I can't. I have no desire to do things like work, even though I need the money and have great skills but I can't convince myself to work 8 or more hours a day because I feel tiered.. I'm trying and fighting to change this but the fight is very hard. Keep fighting and don't loose hope is my advice..

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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 1/9/2009 4:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Horserider02,

Why do you try writing down 1 thing each day that has made you happy, I do this everyday & it really helps me to see something good even if it's something small like - It didn't rain, or I enjoyed watching a film or something? That helps me.
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"

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