Really bad problems with Mom

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   Posted 1/9/2009 1:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I can't even figure this out anymore.
I am so disappointed with my mother, its unbelieveable.
Im not trying to be rude to her, or ignorant or anything. I cooperate as much as I can and I always inconvenience myself for others. Thats fine.
My mom could not care less about me. She doesn't care that I have no money to go back to two days....
She doesn't support my going to therapy.
Everytime I ask to go somewhere or do something which isnt even that often, she just grunts and complains and gets frusterated. I just feel like a bother and an annoyance. Whatta nice daughter?
I really don't know anymore. I think I should just tell my father, but I have no idea cause I know he'll explode. I try so hard to be a good daughter, I really do. Im 20 yrs old but I have no freedom or independence.
I can't talk to her, she just blows up at me. And she also complains saying she's trying soo hard not to lose her mind. Well, look at me. Im IN therapy and actually putting effort into repairing broken relationships and taking care of myself. But when your mother doesnt show any love its very, very hard.
Shoudl I tell my father? He'll freak out, I know. But maybe if he knows whats going on, my mother will stop doing what shes doing.

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   Posted 1/9/2009 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I know how you feel, my mother wasn't very supportive of me either.

Did you talk to your counselor about this? I think that your counselor would have some good advice for you.

Why would your dad blow up? Would he be angry with you or her?

Don't think of yourself as an annoyance or anything like that. This is her problem, not yours. You sound like a wonderful daughter. So don't be so hard on yourself. Try to take things one day at a time. Have you tried to talk to her about this? It sounds like she could be depressed too. Maybe she is in denial.

I hope that this helps a little bit. Hopefully others will come on with more advice for you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 1/9/2009 8:29 PM (GMT -6)   


Your 20 years old, in therapy, and it is time for you to take control...............what are you going to tell your Father that you cannot sit down and tell your parents together.

Do not try to turn one parent against the other as you may lose that battle.

Keep working with your therapist.  Do you work or go to school and who is supporting you financially?  If you can take care of yourself and have the funds I would look into moving into your own place or live on campus..............something to put some space between you and your Mom.

Maybe she is suffering from Depression and that is why she reacts.  I hope you can get this sorted out.  WE are here to support  you so keep posting.



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   Posted 1/10/2009 7:54 AM (GMT -6)   
well sounds to me you should be talking to your father but don't just say bad things about your mum, just try and get help from him like the money issue for your school, don't back-stab your mum, I know your disapointed she doesn't want to help you but she is still your mum

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