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   Posted 1/18/2009 7:08 PM (GMT -6)   
   I think i have lost the plot!!!!!!
  I had a major ongoing agument with my husband today and i just went to the bathroom and chopped my hair off. I had long hair and now it is 3 ich chop all over. WHY? WHY? I have had enough yet feel completley dead. I cant stop crying not over my hair but the despair of it all and the fact i feel so lonley and tired.
scared of staying, scared of going and scared that i will forget this site wake up as i do and just carry on until the next out burst.
 Whats wrong....hard struggle, fighting for love and oh how i wish i could trust someone.
  I think i must be going mad, who am i talking to now lol
  Thanks for reading this and i hope who ever you are you have a peaceful night x

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   Posted 1/18/2009 9:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Sally,

Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. I think that you will be glad that you are here.

So you cut off all of your hair and you are in tears wondering what got you to that point. Well, maybe you needed a big change. I just hope that you don't regret doing it. How did it turn out? Do you like it or hate it?

It sounds like you are suffering from depression. And it could just be the time of year. This is the hardest time next to the holidays. It is like an emptiness and we are all waiting for spring.

I hope that you and your husband work things out. Keep posting, we are all here for you. I hope that you do remember us when you get up.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 1/19/2009 4:27 AM (GMT -6)   
   Thanks so much for the email,
    I do hate the hair but have wanted a change for a while,maybe once i go to the hair dressers and c what they can do with it i might feel a little better. I hate the fact for a split second i lost control and i pray it never happens again. Of all the things to do, seems stupid now and i am a little angry with myself. I have never had short hair infact i think i may have always hidden behind my hair, so maybe this will be a turning point for the better.
  Not sure if any one else has ever done this or i am alone on this one,but for what ever reason its done. I am low today but i think tiredness has a big part to play,
     Thanks again, Sally x

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   Posted 1/19/2009 4:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Sally,

I just read your post & I can really relate to what you are saying atm (apart from the hair cutting!!!) My relationship with my partner is in a bad place right now too & I think I am feeling some of the same things that you are - I haven't really got anything insightful to say to be honest, but I just wanted you to know that I understand how your feeling!!
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   Posted 1/19/2009 8:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I think hair cutting will keep you from hiding any more is a good thing, but my concern is the "loss of control" and you ended up doing something that was not exactly self multilating but it kinda seems like it might have felt that way for you. I could be wrong and please tell me if I am... I am just really concerned about you and want you to help you find some help.
Have you thought about talking to therapist? Sorry if I hurt feelings with that question. I just want to help you get in a better place and I think therapy might help with that.

Cutting one's long hair off is tramadic enough with the intent to do it, but I get the feeling that this was a spontainous action in order to express the pain you felt?

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   Posted 1/19/2009 11:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Heej Sally,

Whatever you think of your new haircut, try to see it as a start for change. I know how it feels to be out of control, and it is that moment that made it clear to me that change is needed. I hope it does awaken you in a similar way.

Feel free to tell here what is bothering you, it can really help to vent and open up. I bet there are some around here that have similar experiences as you, and might be able to help you to live a happier life. But of course, don't feel bad if you don't want to write your thoughts down here!

Sally, I wish you all the very best!
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   Posted 1/19/2009 11:28 AM (GMT -6)   

I am glad that you came back. This really is a good place to come when you are feeling down. We are here to pick you up.

Sometimes it is nice to get on the internet and escape for a while, and what better place to come. Everybody here is so kind and compassionate and understanding.

So I hope that you stay with us. And I hope that the beautician can fix your hair. I too am worried about the spontanious act. But maybe you did need a change. I am glad that you aren't too upset about it.

Keep in touch with us.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 1/19/2009 1:28 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Sally,

I had hair down to my waist when it was braided.  I decided one day to cut off one pigtail right at the top.  I was 5 years Old...........  :)

Navy is very wise and I think she has a good point..........I am not sure why you cut your hair but I think you were trying to make some kind of a statement. 

I am sure a beauty shop can turn your cut into something cute and  sassy.

Take care



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