Welcome to HealingWell.
You can't support somebody who doesn't want it. This depression is hers and hers alone. She can't blame you. Well she can, but it isn't true.
It looks like you have taken all the right steps in trying to help. Continue the marraige counseling. That could possibly be the thing to help you. Plus if she is really taking her meds now, that could help emensly.
I am so sorry for what you are going through, like I say it sounds like you are doing all the right things and trying so very hard. You sound like a very good husband.
I am sorry that she is on the computer corresponding with another man. How can she say that it doesn't mean anything? It must mean something unless they are just joking around, but that alone would upset me. But I can't judge her, it wouldn't be fair.
I hope that things work out for you. Keep up the counseling, let them know that she wasn't taking her meds too.
Best wishes to you, keep posting, we are all here for you.
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies