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   Posted 2/2/2009 7:23 PM (GMT -6)   
wow i've never been so depressed, like my heart feels like its shattered beyond repair, i honestly don't know how my depression got this bad, i just wish it would get better but the more i try to ignore things that have happened this past year i honestly can't my heart hurts sooooo bad like i don't know how to handle it anymore and what makes it worse is that i don't have anyone to talk to like no one seems to care enough to ask me are you okay? i don't know anything right now i guess i just need time for myself, i need to escape from all this pain but i don't know where to go or how to escape, i guess i've given up, ;[

Post Edited (mxforlifebabiie) : 4/21/2009 4:13:41 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 2/2/2009 8:33 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Mixforlifebabiie,

I keep repeating myself, but for some reason this time of the year, more people than ever are depressed.  So chalk some of this up to the season.  Know that you are not alone in the way that you are feeling.

The advice I seem to keep giving, and have to practice myself, is live in the moment.  Take life one day at a time.  Do not live in the past, or in the future.  There is too much stress there.  I can't stress enough how important this is. 

Have you ever tried meditation or deep breathing?  Are you seeing a doctor or therapist at this time?  These are ways of helping yourself to get better.  You may need a physical to rule out any ailments that may be contributing to the way that you are feeling.  Talk to your doctor about the way you are feeling also and they might recommend medication or counseling. 

Try these things and see how you feel, remember stay in the now.  Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.  We are here for you.

Hugs, Karen

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   Posted 2/3/2009 11:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Mixforlifebabiie,
I am with Karen on staying in the moment.  idea
I also believe in meditation and hope this helps you.
We often waste way too much of our time and energy focusing on what we don't like, what we're worried about, or what we think needs to be fixed, changed, or enhanced.

There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time.

Celebrate the good stuff around us, in others, and in ourselves


Choose a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed by other people or by the telephone.

Sit quietly in a comfortable position.

Eliminate distractions and interruptions during the period you'll be meditating.

Commit yourself to a specific length of time and try to stick to it.

Pick a focus word or short phrase that's firmly rooted in your personal belief system. A non-religious person might choose a neutral word like one, peace, or love. Others might use the opening words of a favorite prayer from their religion such as 'Hail Mary full of Grace', "I surrender all to you", "Hallelujah", "Om", etc.

Close your eyes. This makes it easy to concentrate.

Relax your muscles sequentially from head to feet. This helps to break the connection between stressful thoughts and a tense body. Starting with your forehead, become aware of tension as you breathe in. Let go of any obvious tension as you breathe out. Go through the rest of your body in this way, proceeding down through your eyes, jaws, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, upper back, middle back and midriff, lower back, belly, pelvis, buttocks, thighs, calves, and feet.

Breathe slowly and naturally, repeating your focus word or phrase silently as you exhale.

Assume a passive attitude. Don't worry about how well you're doing. When other thoughts come to mind, simply say, "Oh, well," and gently return to the repetition.

Continue for 10 to 20 minutes. You may open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm. After you finish: Sit quietly for a minute or so, at first with your eyes closed and later with your eyes open. Do not stand for one or two minutes.
Plan for a session once or twice a day.

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