Thanks for your replies.
I am not seeing a counselor for this. I am not even sure where to go for counseling or guidance on this as it isn't for me, it is for him.
He is taking Diazepam for his Anxiety, he asked for medication for his depression but the doctors do not think he has it, but he and I both agree he does, all the signs and symptoms are there, plus I know personally as years ago I suffered through depression. So they did not give him anything for his depression.
I am trying to help as I can but also keep my distance when I need to, it is hard, one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but if it will help him I will do it.
In answer to your question bar77, he has gone to the doctor quite frequently actually, but in my opinion he needs to see a different doctor as the one he sees is very lousy, and cannot even see depression when it is staring him in the face. He plans to see a different doctor but in a different area as he has seen the only ones in his current area. (he lives in a small town where there are not a lot of doctors to choose from) but that means he needs to make a trip to a different city, but if he cannot even make it down the road 10 minutes.... you know that vicious cycle he is in. He has dealt with Anxiety on and off for the last 20 years and has seen numerous counselors. I wonder myself if he needs a mood stabilizer. We talked just the other day and he seemed fine but then something small irritated him and he just about flipped. We then talked for about an hour or more after and then I haven't heard anymore from him since that day. He says he has good and bad days, and that is his usual.
The thing that hurts the most is the majority of the time he says that I cannot help him because I do not understand his condition at all. Well, maybe I don't but I have been reading on it, and finding out more about it, but comes across that his is the worse case of Anxiety and depression there ever was and that nothing on earth, no medication, or treatment will help, how can I even begin to try to help him when he thinks this way? Whenever I try to offer any suggestions of any sort he gets so mad and snaps at me saying he has done it already and it did not help. I think he thinks that there is some major extreme treatment that is unorthodox and never ever been used that will help him, that or it seems like he wants to be sick because nothing has helped or he won't let anything help. I know that latter is not true but that is what it seems like.
Anyway, thanks again for your replies, and for taking time from your schedules to help me, this place has been my only outlet so far and I am very grateful to have found it and all the lovely people here.