im not a mother, but i think that maybe if you take a step back and let your daughter continue this relationship, that it will eventually end in tears, and she will have learned a lesson she could only learn by making her own mistakes. thats where you come in- you can counsel and advise and hug her when she realises for herself, firsthand, what a terrible mistake she has made. Calling the wife may alienate your daughter from you and im sure you dont want that.
Im sorry i have no other advice except for when i was 19, i was living a lie. my parents stood back and let me make my own mistakes so i would learn for myself. it worked. they were right all along, but at 19, i wasnt going to let them know that secretly, they were right and i was wrong. that was nearly 10 years ago.
'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
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