hi findmeagain68, & welcome.
first for you i would strongly suggest seeing a gp for yourself. depression is a medical condition. for you both, may benefit from some counselling. good techniques at home are the old 30 minutes u talk & the other must not respond only listen and then the other has there turn. thanx for your courage in posting, the community will aid you greatly, there is a wealth of knowledge and understanding in this community. take care, compassion and healing to you.
jamiee, 37, male, iddm, major depression, severe borderline personality disorder, hormone deficency, bad back, diabetic nuropathy, (feet) plumbing issues, & bits and pecieces!!