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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 4/4/2009 10:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone, im not sure how to start. I'm not medicaly diagnosed with depression, to strong headed to go in and get help. always been that way I guess. Not to keen on going to the doc. I'm a heal yourself type I guess. (or try). Guess i'm just lookin for some advice. how do you help someone you love deal and move on, when you can't deal yourself?  When you care for someone with all you are and have, and have been there for them from the start, when is it time to say hey where do I fit in? I don't wana loose this person or push them away, it would devistate me towhen they are in a bad way themselfs, scared to be hurt again, I've done everything to prove i'm not going to, when do you know it's time to throw it all out there. I'm not a talk about my problems type of person so please hang in there with me gang. I hope to get better at this.  Recantly I just am not me. I'm finacaly strained, emotionaly spent, and feel physicaly drained. I'm trying to be a rock, when i'm hitting rock bottom. When we're toghether, I see it in us both we are us again, happy, why can't I be let in, or whens a good time to push harder to be let in.  As I get better at opening up, I will give more info bout the whole picture. just lookng for small pieces, to get a start to this puzzle. please help, I don't wana sink any more. Don't get me wrong being there for ths person is all I wana do, I'm not complaining about it, they are my life, just wana be a part of thiers at some point. when they're a mess themselfs, at what point do you maybe i guess for lack of better words, start trying tough love? confused

where do I go wrong?

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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 20279
   Posted 4/4/2009 10:17 PM (GMT -6)   
hi findmeagain68, & welcome.
first for you i would strongly suggest seeing a gp for yourself. depression is a medical condition. for you both, may benefit from some counselling. good techniques at home are the old 30 minutes u talk & the other must not respond only listen and then the other has there turn. thanx for your courage in posting, the community will aid you greatly, there is a wealth of knowledge and understanding in this community. take care, compassion and healing to you.
jamiee, 37, male, iddm, major depression, severe borderline personality disorder, hormone deficency, bad back, diabetic nuropathy, (feet) plumbing issues, & bits and pecieces!!
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