hey moonlittle, welcome.
have been in your sit many times, i became sick of being a yes man and total conformist. i appluad your bravery, i am beleiver in karma. new opportunities will avail, time for a decent boss to come your way, this i hope. i have been, hit, verbally abused, and had liberties removed by several employers in the past. yet i went for a job, global firm, was interveiwed by boss, next day ceo, i told him that i will not accept any practices that have happened in the past. got the job. even asked what i would like as a salary, and got that too. yeah long time now, haven't been employed for 8 yrs now as i am on a disability pension in my country. am back at school, working on a new relationship, and my personell mental and physical health. all the best to you. jamiee. don't give up.
Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum. I am glad you felt comfortable posting here and I am sorry to hear you are having issues at work.
Do you see a therapist or a physician for your depression?
I see you have met some of our great members and received some caring support already.
Please keep talking to us and we are here for you.
Many years back I was in a similar job situation as you. I had a boss who was determined to make a quick and uprising career path. He was part of our company's top training program and thought and acted like he "walked on water." As part of this attitude, he did not want any members of his unit to get glory for anything. If any rewards came down the pike he wanted to be there front and center to take the glory for solely himself. Also, he was verbally abusive to me and I always felt like I was walking on egg shells.
He also knew that I had spoken to my former boss and his boss about the situation as I was close to them. I had a proven track record and didn't want it ruined. Things became even more hostile after I did that on the part of my boss, similar to you. However, my experience did end positively because I always stayed one step ahead of him. Here are a few thoughts I'd like to share:
1) You probably did put yourself right in the path for a pink slip. However, you should try to protect yourself right now. Make an appointment and talk to your human resource person. Put your complaint into writing and document some examples of his behavior. I had kept a diary of the abusive incidents and tracked each one by date, time and tried to log in word for word what he said to me. Human resource people tend to take notice when you document. And if other members of your unit did the same thing it would make it that much more difficult to protect him in the future. (But don't let management know under any circumstances that you are promoting doing this.)
2) Even if human resources decides not to follow up or do anything to protect you from this, you will have a documented record for yourself and possibly for an attorney or when filing for unemployment benefits. If the company was to try to deny you benefits, you would have some ammunition to fight with.
3) Is your company large enough that you can post out of your department and into another one? If your boss had not yet given you an unfavorable review, now would be the time to do so. Get out before he gets you out and you will not lose any vacation time or benefits that you have earned.
4) Keep networking with others in and out of your company. Do not badmouth your boss to anyone else. With so few jobs out there, you don't want to be labeled as a "complainer" - even if you know you are in the right. Others may not want to hire you because of it.
.....Good luck and hang in there! I know how difficult it must be for you. But don't let an inappropriate boss get any further of an edge on you. Don't give up and take a defeatist attitude. This will ultimately hurt you in the end.
Moon: I am sorry to hear that you were fired from your job. Keep your head high moving forward. You did the best you could in the environment that you had. Hopefully, you will be able to find something soon to replace it but in a much healthier atmosphere.
Keep posting here to let us know how you are doing in your new search. We are here for you whenever you need to share, get help, yell and hopefully to share in good times to come.