Welcome to HealingWell. I am so glad that you have joined us. It is so hard in your situation, watching your wife go through depression. I think that she does need the medication. When she takes her oxycodone late at night, it probably stops her from sleeping. Often these kinds of drugs keep a person awake. So she should take during the day before the pain becomes intolerable.
I would suggest that you go to some type of counseling for support through this. Somebody who could give you some really good advice on what to do in this situation. It just doesn't seem fair to you or to the children. Especially when she is yelling for no reason. I would be afraid too.
Being bipolar is a tough one. Have you checked out our bipolar forum? I think it would be a good idea. They would probably have some good advice there too.
It is hard because you can't make her get help. Maybe you could calmly talk to her and try to get her to understand what she is putting you and the kids through. When you are bipolar, you don't always see how you are hurting others, especially with inconsistant moods.
Maybe you should make another appointment for her and take her there. Or would that be pushing too hard? She definately needs some help and some medication. I hate the thought of her neglecting the kids.
Please keep posting and letting us know what is going on. We are here to support you. But also some professional advice would be good for you.
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