It is as simple as putting the past behind you and moving on. You can't continue to compare your present girlfriend with your past. That isn't fair to her. I can see how it hurt her when you brought it up last time. You are making her pay for past mistakes that she didn't even make. And by continuing to make this in itself an issue, you are saying that you don't trust her not to hurt you. So think about
what it is you are doing and decide if it is worth it. You wanted the advice and that is how I am seeing this. If you think hashing out these feelings is revelant to the issue at hand, then go for it. But don't be surprised if she feels hurt. If she understands, you have a remarkable woman, but if she doesn't, don't blame her. It would be only natural. I am just trying to show you how she is most likely viewing this.
Best wishes to you, there will most likely be others posting on this topic tomorrow.
Don't be surprised if your girlfriend gets a little bummed out because you confided in her cousin instead of her. You can't blame her if she does, put the shoe on the other foot and see how you would feel if she did that to you. I don't want you to think that I feel that you did everything wrong, I can see why you would want to discuss this with her, but I feel that you are making too much out of it and I am afraid that she is going to feel the same way. She doesn't understand why you are afraid that she is going to hurt you. Because she doesn't intend to.
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Post Edited (getting by) : 4/19/2009 8:29:40 PM (GMT-6)