I am so sorry to read about
this. I can understand why you would be upset, especially since this move was one of the issues that precipitated the breakup! There is no way to know for sure what is on her mind, but I, too, would be suspicious of her motives, given the fact that she was so adamant about
it prior to the end of the relationship. I agree that it is not in your son's best interest for him to be looking at her facebook page, but I also know that cutting the ties can be a slow process.....sometimes with a few steps forward and a couple back. Like you, I am hoping and praying that your son's counseling and additional support will help him to cope with the situation - no matter what it entails - and I know it must be so hard for you having to watch and wait like this. You may not be able to control what your son's ex does or where she chooses to live and work, but you CAN continue to communicate with your son and offer the love and support that you always have. Ultimately, if she moves to your area, he will have to decide how to handle it, but until that time, keep listening to him and encouraging him to do what is best for him. Grief is a rough road, but your son has already made progress, and I am confident that he will get past this upsetting news. I'm sending you my best wishes and sincere prayers. ((((hugs))))
Living one day at a time.