Hi there MissYellow:
Maybe I can help being from the other side and all. The way I see it is you in luck since you are the female wanting intimacy. It means just that intimacy. On the other hand if and when the many times I have tried to get my hubby to hold me, he pressures me into sex and then I feel obligated and comply. Then once it is over I am feeling absolute hatred because I was made to do something I did not want to do.
Back to YOUR issue: I say approach hubby when he is flirty and not in bad mood maybe pour him a drink and put in a funny dvd for the two of you to cuddle up and watch. Just remember be close with him, hold hands but let it flow natural don't push or he will run and hide as I do with my hubby. No matter how many times I try to explain it to him, he does not get that making it known to me (constantly)that he needs sex is the same as pressuring me. Although he does not physically force, it feels very similar. This is why I say your maybe in a better situation being that you are the female wanting sex. Females can be happy with intimacy (not sex) whereas most men do not understand the difference.
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