I agree with Karen.....this abusive behaviour
from your boyfriend is a red flag. Even threats of physical violence are a form of abuse. I understand why you appreciate having his help with your daughter, but please think about
the effect this is having on her. Do you want her to grow up thinking that his kind of behaviour
is normal and/or acceptable? Kids often learn more from what they see than from what we tell them. They look to our lives as an example, and I would hate for your daughter to learn that abusive language and threats are okay. You deserve so much better than that, Stncarter.
I agree with the suggestion of talking to your doctor about
depression. There are different medications out there that can help, and in your case, I would strongly encourage you to get some counseling about
how to deal with your situation. If seeing a doc is not an option, I wonder if there is a women's shelter or community center where you could talk to someone about
how to deal with depression, and also maybe get advice about
seeking child support from your daughter's father (you mentioned that he doesn't do anything for her, so I am making the assumption that he is not supporting her).
I wish you the very best, and hope you will come back again to post to us.
"As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world - that is the myth of the atomic age - as in being able to remake ourselves." ~ Mahatma Gandhi