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   Posted 5/10/2009 2:55 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so freaken depressed I just want to go away from everyone! My family is ruining my relationship. Well, my boyfriend is helping also. I love him with all of my heart but he has anger problems and when he gets mad he jerks on me, curse me out, and threatens to beat me up. Then on top of that, my freaken family keeps moving in and out! I just wish they will leave because this is stressing me out. Plus it makes me and my boyfriend argue constantly because he dont wont them here. I liked it a lot better when it was just him and my daughter. I just want to scream! I want to cry cuz I miss my boyfriend yet I want to leave him but I dont wont to move in with all of my darn family. Its hard to leave my boyfriend cuz he was there for me when no one else was and gave me and my daughter some where to stay when I lost my apartment.He has been helping me with her for the past eight months and he loves her. Her real dad doesn't do anything for her. Im in a difficult situation. Any advice?

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   Posted 5/10/2009 6:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HealingWell and the Depressions forum.  It sounds like you are feeling pretty unhappy right now.  I am sorry to read that.
Have you ever been to your physician and been diagnosed with depression?  That would be a good place to start IMHO. 
Again a warm welcome to HW.


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   Posted 5/10/2009 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Heeja Stncarter,

Welcome to HW! I am sorry to hear what you are going through right now. What Kitt suggests seems to be a good way to start. Is it possible for you to visit your doctor? He or she might be able to tell you about the local support groups, counselors, and everything else that might help. Also, are there people you know and trust? They can be a great support as well, as long as you feel comfortable.

Also, feel free to vent here! Maybe you could ask yourself questions in order to explore what is bugging you. That can be of a help too.

Anyway, nice to meet you, and all the very best!

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Try to keep smiling! :)

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   Posted 5/10/2009 10:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Stncarter,

I don't like what you said about your boyfriend being abuseive and threatening to hit you. I think that you might want to reassess this relationship.

Even if you had to move in with your family, it would only be temporary and they have lived with you enough by the sound of it. I would get out of that relationship and fast.

Best wishes to you sweetie,

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   Posted 5/11/2009 7:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Stncarter,

I agree with Karen.....this abusive behaviour from your boyfriend is a red flag. Even threats of physical violence are a form of abuse. I understand why you appreciate having his help with your daughter, but please think about the effect this is having on her. Do you want her to grow up thinking that his kind of behaviour is normal and/or acceptable? Kids often learn more from what they see than from what we tell them. They look to our lives as an example, and I would hate for your daughter to learn that abusive language and threats are okay. You deserve so much better than that, Stncarter.

I agree with the suggestion of talking to your doctor about depression. There are different medications out there that can help, and in your case, I would strongly encourage you to get some counseling about how to deal with your situation. If seeing a doc is not an option, I wonder if there is a women's shelter or community center where you could talk to someone about how to deal with depression, and also maybe get advice about seeking child support from your daughter's father (you mentioned that he doesn't do anything for her, so I am making the assumption that he is not supporting her).

I wish you the very best, and hope you will come back again to post to us.
"As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world - that is the myth of the atomic age - as in being able to remake ourselves."  ~ Mahatma Gandhi

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   Posted 5/11/2009 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   

hi stncarter. welcome to hw.

i feel it is important to prioritize your situation, the best method is via working out the pro's and con's of each seperate issue. you need safety, 4 u and child. no person should live in fear, nor should anybody cause violence to any person. keep safe, luv and compassion 2 u and child.



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