another brick in the wall.

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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 5/13/2009 5:30 AM (GMT -6)   
hi community,
had an indifferent day. to say the least!
seen my lady today, her carer received a call from the agency that my lady is attached to. after the call i was advised that my lady and i are not to be left alone. i also put it to the carer that i have been the one doing the caring. well the situation is that my lady wants time with me alone to talk, thus we allow the carer to play the poker machines.
mutual i thought. the carer seemed to enjoy advising me of the agencies demand, thus i informed the carer that whilst she plays i care for my lady, no problem, all she is worried about is her job. she has broken some rules, as i. i explained that i will not be dictated to, and that i take responsibilty for my indescretions of the rules, that the carer has to take responsibility for hers. and my lady for hers, we are all apart of the problem, albeit the carer strongly denied hers.
what upset me is that she cancelled my lady's next shift, and subsequent fri shifts. the carers problem is that she has magor issues with the agency, due to lack of shifts, and or last minute calls. also she has issues with the other carer taking extra shifts, this i pointed out, we are constantly hearing about her issues with the agency. all about the money. so i said are you going to be apart of the solution or be apart of the problem?
if i am to break this discrimination of us, as my lady has various abilities, with the agency, and in society, then i will continue to put my head on the chopping block. i love her, as she loves me. i have been discriminated and persecuted and vilified all of my life, and if my lady and i are to move forward, without stigma, without discrimination then we are going to have to teach people about the above. communication, but at arms length, no, life is too short. perplexed, angry, depressed and disappointed. need some compassion and guidance, i am a caring man, and a loving one to. thanx jamie sad sad sad sad sad sad

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   Posted 5/13/2009 6:31 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Jamie,

Your devotion to your lady is heartwarming and inspiring.  I hope you are giving yourself lots of credit for that.  She is very lucky to have someone who loves and cares for her like you do.

Can you speak directly with the agency about this?  It seems that this is more about the carer's issues.....her issues with her job and with the agency....and I wonder if it would be helpful to speak to someone about these cancelled shifts, in particular.  Your lady should not have to suffer because this carer has issues with the agency.  Your lady's care should be the most important thing here, and I see that you have that focus already....good for you.  You are a wonderful person, Jamie, and with all the things you are struggling with, you still put yourself out there to help others.  Good for you.  (((hugs)))  Keep us posted.


"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."  ~Jalal ad-Din Rumi

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   Posted 5/13/2009 6:36 AM (GMT -6)   
thanx raniah, yeah time to vocalize to the agency. hey, u are wonderful too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i would be lost without ya!!!!!!!!!! jamie smilewinkgrin   feel better for reading your reply.
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