I’m sorry that this has been so upsetting for you. The death of your sister had to be incredibly traumatic for you, especially considering the circumstances, and I can understand why it would be something you could never fully recover from. I feel the same way about
those I have lost, and I know I will always miss them, no matter how much time has passed. I hope you don’t mind if I share my thoughts on this issue, because I feel that there may have been a misunderstanding here. Please know that I would never want to hurt you or dismiss your feelings in any way. As I said in a previous post to you, I do consider you a dear friend, and a very loving and compassionate person on this forum.
My reading of Joe Cal’s post was quite different than yours, in the sense that I interpreted it as a plea for help…..from someone who is unable to feel the grief and loss that you and I have felt. When he said, “I do not understand why adults are so upset about
someone’s death. Isn’t that the way it always ends up…didn’t they expect this outcome.”…my take on it was that he is unable to feel what we feel, and he wants to understand what that feeling is all about
, knowing that death for all of us is an inevitable part of life. I truly don’t believe that he meant to hurt or offend anyone. In other words, I didn’t take it to mean he was saying “so what” or “who cares” in the same way that you did. As I said before, I am not dismissing your feelings or opinions about
this in any way…..I am merely proposing that there may have been some misinterpretation. Please forgive me if I have hurt you. I have only posted this in an effort to bring some clarification.
“If what I say resonates with you, it is merely because we are both branches on the same tree." ~W.B. Yeats