dear pharbale, and what about you!! i am worried that your health is at risk, the situation from hubby is unfair and unresonable, i feel that you and hubby might get out of the house, drag him if you must, and i am a 37yr old male myself, and talk to him about the situation, if you can still empathise and putyour point across he will take this as less of a shock.
i sense the love from you is true, he to, but he needs to do something to eliviate and manage his situation and depression. there are many ways to skin a cat, and i think you are saavy enough to come up with some ideas to spark a renewed interest in life and his partner and the 11yr old too!!!
keep posting, we care, i wish you well,